“Today Barack Obama announced that he supports the freedom to marry. Personally. Because he knows monogamous same-sex couples who are raising children. (Non – monogamous couples aren’t allowed to get legally married, of course, unless they’re straight.) But the president also supports the ‘concept’ of states ‘deciding the issue on their own.’ (States like, say, North Carolina, which yesterday banned any recognition of same-sex relationships in reality, not in concept.) So the president supports same-sex marriage while also supporting the right of states to ban the same-sex marriages that he supports. Which means, of course, that once the dust settles… everyone is going to be upset, supporters of marriage equality and opponents alike.
“I wouldn’t say that this ‘completes a turnabout’ for the president on the issue of marriage equality. I’d say he’s almost there. His support for marriage equality in concept is huge, of course, and it’s welcome, and I’m pulling out my gay checkbook. (I’m pulling it out again.) But as delighted as I am by this news—and I’m freakin’ delighted—I’m nevertheless disappointed that the president’s support for marriage equality doesn’t extend to same-sex couples in North Carolina and other states that have already banned same-sex marriage.” – Dan Savage.