“The US government regards gay Americans as sub-human in their needs and wants and rights. Their loves and relationships mean nothing under the law every time they encounter federal authoritah. Aaron and I are total strangers to one another in the eyes of federal law. And because we are legally married, I am paradoxically more vulnerable to being deported than I would be if I were single – because it’s plain that I intend to reside in the US indefinitely, even though my visa has an expiration date.
“So I’m a risk – hence my huge anxiety if I ever leave the country. I am lucky to be able to apply for a Green Card on my own merits, under the rubric of what’s called extraordinary ability in my field (it’s still in process). But most people are not so lucky. They just fall in love. Only to have their own government rip their marriage apart, or force the American into exile. If this isn’t wrong, what is?” – Andrew Sullivan, commenting on the news that the foreign partner of legally married binational gay couples may still be deported.