Not Straight, Bisexual

Details has published a rather dumb story called What If You Only Thought You Were Gay? in which the author recounts the stories of a number of men who married women after years of living as gay men. It’s not a story about “ex-gays”, more a few anecdotal instances in which gay men fell in love with women.

For Andrew Brin, who grew up in Milwaukee, it was all about girls—until he had sex with a guy at the end of his senior year of high school. “It was fun and I had a great time, but I remember having the feeling that I was doing something that wasn’t right,” he says. In his early thirties, Brin started dating a man and came out to his brother. When he later fell in love with a woman (who was at the time a lesbian) and realized he was straight, he didn’t inform anyone that he’d been waving that rainbow flag mistakenly.

And although there aren’t statistics to show how many men go through a similar sexual shift, anecdotal evidence suggests that some men who consider themselves to be gay experience this kind of change not because of sexual experimentation or peer pressure but because they decide that they want to sleep with women instead of men.

Obviously, these are actually examples of men discovering their innate bisexuality, not coming to a realization that they’d been “mistakenly gay.” Plenty of noted gays have ended up in hetero marriages, including singer Tom Robinson, whose Glad To Be Gay remains a gay rights anthem.