Tag Archives: Steven Petrow

Today’s Gay Etiquette Question

From Steven Petrow’s Civil Behavior column in the New York Times comes this question: Q. Dear Civil Behavior: I am a gay woman who tends to dress and identify on the masculine side. I’ll soon be attending a religious service at my extended family’s Orthodox synagogue, requiring modest attire, which means that women are not allowed to wear pants and ...

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Today’s Gay Etiquette Question

From Steven Petrow’s Civil Behavior column in the New York Times comes this question: Q. Dear Civil Behavior: I’m a sergeant in the Army, and my girlfriend and I are to meet with a married gay couple (he’s an officer). I am not sure how to introduce her to my friend’s married partner. Do I say, “Jennifer, this is Colonel ...

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Today’s Gay Etiquette Question

From Steven Petrow’s Civil Behavior column in the New York Times comes this question: Q. Dear Civil Behavior: I’d like your advice in coming out as H.I.V. positive to friends and colleagues. I’m married to a wonderful man, 51, and have lived quite well with the virus for 15 years. I believe it’s important for the many others still finding ...

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Today’s Gay Etiquette Question

From Steven Petrow’s Civil Behavior column in the New York Times comes this question: Q. Dear Civil Behavior: Mike, my partner for 13 years, and I worked with a local attorney to prepare our wills and related documents. Before we could finalize all of our financial affairs, however, Mike was diagnosed with a rare brain virus that strikes some H.I.V./AIDS ...

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Today’s Gay Etiquette Question

From Steven Petrow’s Civil Behavior column in the New York Times comes this question: Q. Dear Civil Behavior: When the Supreme Court allowed same-sex marriages in California to resume in June, my partner and I (together for nearly two decades) celebrated our community’s long overdue equality. But it seems to have given license to everybody to start nudging us toward ...

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Today’s Gay Etiquette Question

From Steven Petrow’s Civil Behavior column in the New York Times comes this question: Q. Dear Civil Behavior: I am going on a five-city tour overseas with a longtime friend of mine who happens to be gay (I am straight). Another old friend lives in one of the cities we’ll be visiting, and she wants to meet up and show ...

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Today’s Gay Etiquette Question

From Steven Petrow’s Civil Behavior column in the New York Times comes this question: Q. Dear Civil Behavior: I’m 53, a daughter, a sister, a mother, a grandmother and a friend. And I am gay. I was raised in a conservative Southern Baptist Church in Tennessee, and I had spent a lifetime living in hiding and hating myself because of ...

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Today’s Gay Etiquette Question

From Steven Petrow’s Civil Behavior column in the New York Times comes this question: Dear Civil Behavior: My husband and I became foster dads to our son when he was 4 months old and adopted him when he was 2 years old. He will soon be 10. As an adoptive parent, it strikes me as odd that complete strangers will ...

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Today’s Gay Etiquette Question

From Steven Petrow’s Civil Behavior column in the New York Times comes this question: Q. Dear Civil Behavior: I’m bisexual (female), and I want to be out at work. I just don’t quite know how to slip it into conversation. It never seems appropriate to say the word “sexual” in a work environment, and it’s simply awkward. If I come ...

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Today’s Gay Etiquette Question

From Steven Petrow’s Civil Behavior column in the New York Times comes this question: Dear Civil Behavior: I’ve been helping my daughter plan her wedding to her girlfriend and everything’s been going fine — until now. We’re about to address the invitations. The calligrapher is lined up and time is getting a bit short. Here’s the problem. My daughter insists ...

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Today’s Gay Etiquette Question

From Steven Petrow’s Civil Behavior column in the New York Times comes this question: Dear Civil Behavior: My partner and I are in our early 30s and we’re planning to formally commit our lives to each other. We’re struggling with our guest list, though. We both have a number of family members — in my case, my parents and seven ...

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Today’s Gay Advice Request To NYT

Here’s the most recent letter sent to New York Times gay advice columnist Steven Petrow: Dear Civil Behavior: I am a straight suburban mom who is very supportive of my gay teenage son. He’s confident in who he is but he’s also vulnerable to hostile comments from those who might find him too “flamboyant.” Recently he came home from school ...

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