Tag Archives: monogamy

AUSTRALIA: Senator Tells Parliament That Gay Men Aren’t Faithful Enough To Deserve Marriage

We’ve heard this one before. Gay Star News reports: Family First Senator and marriage equality opponent Bob Day on Friday hit out at same-sex marriage, saying that most gay men in relationships are unfaithful to their partners. During the second reading of the Marriage Equality Amendment Bill, the Senator for South Australia started his speech calling it ‘shameful that activists ...

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HomoQuotable – Dan Savage

“The mistake that straight people made was imposing the monogamous expectation on men. Men were never expected to be monogamous. Men had concubines, mistresses and access to prostitutes, until everybody decided marriage had to be egalitar­ian and fairsey. [Rather than granting women] the same latitude and license and pressure-release valve that men had always enjoyed, we extended to men the ...

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The Map Of Non-Monogamy

Complicated! Unicorn polyamory? Bigger version here.

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On Gay Sexual Jealousy

Over at Scientific American, Jesse Bering discusses a partner’s infidelity and opines that sexual jealousy among gay couples is genetically hardwired, whether or not we intellectually dismiss monogamy as unnatural. Bering concludes: [B]ecause fatal sexually transmitted infections for which gay men are unusually vulnerable, such as HIV, were not present in the ancestral past and could not have produced any ...

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Gays And Monogamy: Here We Go Again

NOM is already happily tweeting the link to another story about gay men and open relationships. You may recall the brouhaha that erupted in January when the New York Times published a story about a study which reported that 50% of gay male couples are non-monogamous. While the truth of that study seemed self-evident to me, many questioned its methodologies ...

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Study: 50% Of Gay Relationships Are Open

Following up on Joy Behar’s widely reported comment about gay relationships and monogamy, today the New York Times published word of a new study which claims that 50% of gay relationships are non-monogamous. A study to be released next month is offering a rare glimpse inside gay relationships and reveals that monogamy is not a central feature for many. Some ...

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Joy Behar: Gays Don’t Care About Monogamy Like Straights Do

Expanding on Dan Savage’s comments about monogamy on her HLN show last night, on today’s episode of The View Joy Behar suggested that gays in general are less concerned that their partners remain faithful. Both Whoopi and Elisabeth Hasselbeck (!) warned against such blanket statements. I imagine that many here will condemn Behar, but at least regarding gay men, in ...

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Survey: Young People Hold Traditional Relationship Values (Gays Too!)

A survey conducted by the University of Minnesota reveals that young people continue to hold “traditional” values regarding love, monogamy, and commitment – regardless of their sexual orientation. “Given increases in cohabitation, divorce and debates about same sex marriage, it is easy to think that traditional relationship values have gone out the window,” said Ann Meier, U of M sociology ...

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Gay Marriage Leads To Straight Adultery!

The deep thinkers at the Maine Marriage Alliance point to a survey about monogamy among gay male couples and come to this conclusion: Legal recognition for openly non-monogamous gay unions would effectively destroy the taboo on adultery. The result is a continual downfall of families and society. Stanley Kurtz, a research fellow at Stanford University explains: “What we need to ...

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The Fantasy Of Faithfulness

The New York Times editorializes on the non-stop “scandal” of philandering heterosexuals: You can accuse the disgraced ex-governor Eliot Spitzer of many things in his decision to flout the law by soliciting the services of a pricey prostitute: hypocrisy, egomania, sophomoric impulsiveness and self-indulgence, delusional ineptitude and boneheadedness. But one trait decidedly not on display in Mr. Spitzer’s splashy act ...

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