New York City Cop Goes Viral With LGBT Pride Post

A New York City cop who chronicles his weight loss and bodybuilding efforts on social media under the moniker “Huge Fat Loser” has earned thousands of shares for a touching post he made this weekend on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. His real name doesn’t seem to appear on any of the accounts, but he identifies himself as working out of NYPD Precinct 114 in Queens. From his Facebook page:

  • IAMBOWLINGGREEN

    Huge fat loser ? No, he’s a big adorable winner.

    • TampaZeke

      There are millions of women and gay men who would give their left arms for a big fat loser like him. If I didn’t already have an amazing big loser of my own, I would be among them.

      • TuuxKabin

        Give him a left and right armed hug from NYC.

  • Jonathan Smith
  • JuanGalicia

    Argh D: the kid that slept on a tent bit

  • another_steve

    I hope those assholes who carried that banner at NYC’s Pride parade on Sunday — “There’s no such thing as a queer-friendly cop” — are reading here.

    • FAEN

      That was a banner? How ridiculous and wholly ignorant of them.

      • JoeMyGod
        • Tread

          I hope they’re fucking proud of themselves, self-righteous assholes.

          • thom

            Oh, they are. We’re just not woke enough to understand how right they are

          • David Walker

            All Fags Are Pedophiles
            All Log Cabin Republicans Are Self-Loathing Hypocrites
            (need a really wide street for that one)
            All Christians Preach Hate

          • Todd20036

            Actually, all LCRs really are self loathing hypocrites. I’m willing to say that.

          • another_steve

            It’s a bit difficult, I think, to rationalize a queer person’s support of an administration that through word and deed has demonstrated animus toward queer people.

            A bit like being a Jew for Hitler.

          • Schlukitz

            Perhaps all Christians do not preach hate but the book that they read and espouse (the bible) sure does preach hate.

          • Mark

            And you Thom are ignorant! I worked in law enforcement, consulting on projects for a number of years, and the members of the force I worked with and those I knew outside the projects were outstanding! I think it’s YOU who needs to “woke” up.

          • Todd20036

            thought Thom was being sarcastic

          • TuuxKabin

            thought Thom was being pompous as usual.

          • thom

            HEY! that’s not fair….
            (It kinda is)

          • whollyfool

            I think Thom forgot his sarcasm tag….
            Thank you for your service.

          • thom

            I was being sarcastic 🙂

          • Mark

            When it comes to something like this, the /s would be helpful because it did not come across as being sarcastic at all.

          • thom

            Lesson learned

        • FAEN

          Thanks Joe. I had no idea.

        • Ham
        • Oscarlating Wildely

          Something should be noted: I believe that this was part of the Resist coalition. It was a subset of I want to say around 18 groups that fell under that label. Stuff like this: not helping that cause.

    • TampaZeke

      I was so glad that Pride is going back to it’s activist roots and then the insane fringe took control and started instituting impossible litmus tests to qualify for participation.

      That sign is disgusting, disturbing and shameful. THAT should have been blocked from the parade instead of LGBT friendly and racially diverse cops!

    • crewman

      Shame on them. It’s disappointing that any gay person would not know better than to use misinformation to whip up hate towards another group. Don’t we directly know why that’s wrong?

    • GayOldLady

      Unfortunately most of us have had many more negative experiences with the Po-Po than positive experiences. But painting all cops with a broad brush is not a good idea. This cop brought tears to my eyes with his kind and loving words and I’m grateful to cops like him for having our backs.

      • another_steve

        “Most of us”? Really? I think not. Some of us, not most of us.

        The police help keep our cities inhabitable. Were there no cops, the United States would quickly become uninhabitable.

        • GayOldLady

          Well, I agree with that Steve, but I don’t know many L/G or T people who have some age on them who haven’t had some sort of negative interaction with the PD because of their sexual orientation or identity. I worked for a Metropolitan PD in my 20’s and gay men and transgender men were treated terribly by the PD. Arrested for the “crime” of being with other men or “cross dressing” they rarely left jail looking as they looked when they entered. And harassing lesbians sexually was not a rare thing. Right up until the 90’s LGBT people were regularly hassled at bars and clubs all over the country. In many places around the U.S. our community did not have a good relationship with the PD. And there are still pockets around the U.S. where the PD isn’t LGBT friendly. While I agree we shouldn’t paint law enforcement with a broad brush, there’s little doubt that the Black, Latino and LGBT community are not treated with the same respect and deference that straight white people are treated.

          • another_steve

            Hear ya. I agree there are bad apples in many if not most police forces around the nation — racists, misogynists, homophobes — and they need to be rooted out and sent packing. I reject the notion however that, in 2017, police forces around the country are inherently bigoted.

            In 1969 the NYC police force was inherently homophobic. That’s why the Stonewall riots happened.

            But not today.

            Not in 2017.

          • GayOldLady

            The Metropolitan PD of today are a lot more integrated. People of color, L/G/B and in some cases T are employed as Police Officers or civilian employees. But in the rural areas where I live, it’s a LGBT, black and Latino hatefest by the PD. When I was about 65 I was stopped on a nearby State Hwy by Sheriff Dept Officer who said I changed lanes improperly, when the truth was he almost ran me over when he changed lanes improperly. As it happened we had a rainbow sticker on the vehicle and I’m certain he spotted it after he almost side swiped us and it angered him. When he came to the car he treated us like we were criminals. Even though he was out of jurisdiction, he made me exit the vehicle and stand behind my automobile like I was a suspect in an armed robbery. He told me he could arrest me if he wanted to and I said “officer you do whatever you think you have to do, but you’re out of your jurisdiction” he then threatened to call the Constable and have me arrested for the crime of “changing lanes improperly”. I told him again “Do whatever you think is right officer” and he told me to “watch my tone of voice”. I finally said “Officer, either arrest me, give me ticket or let me go. You have no right to detain me.” He let me go! Steve, I have houseplants older than the man who stopped me. I and every friend I have were the victims of intimidation and hassling by the PD. I had a lesbian friend, deceased now, who was a bartender in NY during the Stonewall riots. She told the story about how they rounded up the Dykes and Queens and put them into the back of Paddy wagon to feel them up to see if they were male or female. That sort of “prove it” behavior went on well into the 90’s here and she told me that the harassment, intimidation and bullying by the PD of the LGBT community was as bad in the South of the 90’s as it was in NYC of the 60’s. I wish the LGBT community around the country was treated with the same respect the officer that’s the subject of this thread feels, but unfortunately we’re not there yet. Still, I totally agree with you that the broad brush portrayal of all Officers as bad is wrong and banners of that nature have no place in pride marches.

          • another_steve

            Your experience was horrible, GOL. Unforgivable. That cop is a perfect example of what I mean when I say, “root out the bad apples and send them packing.”

            I’m sure there are more bad apple cops in rural areas (particularly in the rural south) than in urban areas. I find it hard to believe, though, that in 2017 there are police forces that are inherently bigoted at their core toward any particular segment of the population.

            I see a big difference there: a police force that contains bigoted officers vs. an inherently bigoted police force.

            If we had a U.S. Department of Justice today genuinely concerned about justice (we do not), one of its important functions would be to monitor police forces and look for any that are inherently bigoted at their core.

            Alas, with this current monstrous administration of ours, we’re fucked in this area.

          • Schlukitz

            Steve, you really need to get out more. You also need to remove the wool that someone has obviously pulled over your eyes.

            You said: “I find it hard to believe, though, that in 2017 there are police forces that are inherently bigoted at their core toward any particular segment of the population.”

            A Google search brought-up the following three commentaries from respected sources which were just a few of the many similar editorials that came up in my search.

            https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2016/04/the-san-francisco-police-departments-bigotry-problem/476457/

            http://bigthink.com/ideafeed/police-bigotry

            https://www.nytimes.com/2014/08/31/sunday-review/race-and-police-shootings-are-blacks-targeted-more.html

            You really need to catch-up on your reading and do a little more research before painting with such a wide brush of your own that white-washes police brutality which still exists…even today…and in 2017.

          • another_steve

            Let’s make a deal, Schlukitz. Let’s all catch up on our reading, as you suggest, and let’s all stop falling prey to the rhetoric of extremist far-leftists whose agendas are as hateful and bigoted and narrow-minded as those of extremist far-rightests.

            Deal?

          • JW Swift

            Not to be argumentative, but most encounters I’ve had with cops have been negative, too. Fortunately not because of any blatant homophobia, just general nastiness in their attitude of dealing with the public. Most of the cops I’ve encountered have acted as if they joined the force in order to have a gun and a badge to be able to legally push people around.

            The last encounter was over a routine traffic stop where I was being as polite and deferential to the officer as I could possibly be and the guy still got up in my face like he was trying to play some over-the-top Marine Corps drill instructor. And over the course of my lifetime, this has far-and-away been the rule, not the exception (though, fortunately, I’ve been able to stay out of trouble enough that the encounters have been relatively few, but still, the encounters that I have had, have been overwhelmingly negative).

          • Schlukitz

            So, you are saying, in essence, that the three sources that I listed above (The NY Times included), in addition to the dozens of similar sources a Google search will bring up, are all full of shit?

            Dang. You sound as bad as the creationists who think that the world is oly 6,000 years old and the ignorants who believe that humans have nothing to do with climate change! 🙁

          • Schlukitz

            I can relate to the story told by your lesbian bartender friend in NYC.

            Back in the mid-sixties, I recall a drag-net sting of several hundred “queers” at the foot of Christopher in Manhattan where the old steamship piers used to be in which I and several of my gay friends were also arrested and herded into school buses like cattle.

            The NYC police used an archaic law passed during WWII that was still on the books making it a “crime” to be within 100 feet of the waterfront because of supposed German U-boat “activity in New York Harbor.

            I and my lgbt brothers and sisters got to spend a night in the slammer at the infamous tombs, appear before a Judge and pay a fine to the City of New York as well the next morning for the “crime” of “gay activity” (walking) within 100 feet of the waterfront. LOL

            Talk about a stretch of the law?

            I should also point-out that in that time period, there was also a law on the NYC books that forbade the gathering of two or more homosexuals on city street and for which one could also be arrested and carted-off to jail and even beaten with a rubber hose just for being gay.

            Things may have changed for the better in large metropolitan areas like New York City as you pointed-out, but we still read reports of verbal/physical and the beatings of LGBT folks in the lesser known red-neck areas of this country, not to mention the religious pastors and loons who regularly and vigorously call for our rounding-up, imprisonment and our executions as well.

            These has been lots of change since Stonewall, but we still have a long way to go, not to mention the atonement that cops should be making for the unforgivable violence perpetrated against lgbt folks in the past.

          • GayOldLady

            Our memories are similar. Those were treacherous times. Just being LGBT could get you arrested, assaulted or killed. Like you I’m still waiting for the en masse mea culpa, I suppose that will happen when hell freezes over.

      • Acronym Jim

        By and large, most of my experience with the police have been positive, but it only takes one bad experience to tarnish the image of all.

        Personal case in point, in the late 80s, I had left the club early because I was trying to quit smoking and the temptation was becoming too strong (even though I had bought a can of Copenhagen chewing tobacco as kind of an early version of Nicorette gum. It was disgusting enough that I only had to get a nicotine fix when the craving became far too much.)

        Just a block from my apartment, I saw shadows coming up behind me. Before I could turn around, I was hit on the back of the head. I stayed on my feet and turned around. When I did another one of the attackers hit me across the side of my midsection with a metal chain. There were four of them. When I quietly told the guy with the chain to stop (I was in shock, so I guess that’s why I didn’t run – which no doubt would have led to greater injuries), the leader who had hit me with a pipe told me “we don’t want gays in our town,” which, considering I was getting gay bashed struck me as an odd choice of words. I just looked at him and shook my head in confusion. At this point he told me to empty my pockets. They took my can of Copenhagen and the three dollars I had in my wallet (but not the wallet). Fortunately and absurdly, I was able to palm the little baggie of weed I had.

        When they had taken these things from me and we were in a kind of confused and uncertain standoff, I felt a trickle on my head. I reached up and felt blood coming from the back of my head. “Shit, I’m bleeding” I said as I showed my attackers my bloody palm. At that point they all took off running down the street.

        I made my way back to my apartment and called 911. I gave a description of the assailants and an ambulance was sent. The police officer who took my statement in the hospital as they were stitching up my head was sympathetic and told me they had picked up a group hanging outside one of the downtown gay bars. He gave me the number of the assigned detective and told me to arrange a time to go in a view their mug shots.

        The next day I called the detective. He was hostile and dismissive. When I asked him about looking through mug shots, he said they had thousands of mug shots on record and he just didn’t have that kind of time to devote to this case. When I countered that the attending officer had told me these men had just been arrested the previous night, He told me that’s too bad but he had more important things to work on and hung up.

        I should have continued to pursue the matter, but I was beaten, sore, and felt utterly defeated and demoralized, so I didn’t. That was just the way things were in the 80s and it took me awhile to trust the police again. Former police chief and later mayor Tom Potter did a lot to help restore that trust. When his daughter, a fellow police officer, came out as a lesbian, he completely and publicly supported her and marched with her in the Portland Pride parade that year. He also took steps to update police policy when it came to the LGBT community.

        We still have a ways to go and still need to address and call out the bad cops, but we HAVE come a long way, baby.

        P.S.: Thanks to those assholes, it took me another 25 years to quit smoking.

        • GayOldLady

          Oh Jim, that’s heartbreaking. I’ve heard so many stories like yours it makes my head spin. Many gays, after their first encounter with police didn’t even bother to call the PD after an attack or harassment because they knew the treatment they got from the police would be almost as bad or worse than the attack. I could literally write a book about stories I’ve heard of beatings of gay and transgender men, the rape and/or assault of lesbians. It got so bad in the bigger cities here in the 70’s & 80’s that most of the club owners hired their own people to monitor the parking lots and the area around the bars. In those days a lot of people parked away from the bars to keep their vehicles from being seen at a gay club. That made us even more vulnerable. I had an acquaintance who was attacked, robbed and killed leaving a bar, his partner survived, but the beat him to a pulp. Since I’m an old woman my memory goes back to the days when the PD’s attitude toward us was “tough shit”. I know times are changing, but not fast enough for those of us living in rural areas, especially in the Southern U.S.

          P.S. I’m glad you quit smoking. I quit in my early 30’s and so glad I did. Both my parents died around the age I am now from Lung Cancer due to cigarettes.

        • Derrick Johns

          glad you survived the attack, Jim.

          • Acronym Jim

            Thanks Derrick, I’m glad I got away with minimal injuries. Just a bruise across my side and a small cut on my scalp (that still bled like a stuck pig). Like I said in my original post, I believe if I had had the presence of mind to run, it would have been much worse. As it was, I just acted in the moment without thinking about it and got off pretty lightly. I know some people who weren’t so lucky. One friend lost and eye in a gay bashing.

        • wmforr

          Things have indeed changed in NYC since then. Now the NYPD tries to assign out gay cops to gay areas, just like their policy with ethnic neighborhoods.

      • Schlukitz

        I too was equally touched by this cop’s kind and caring words.

        He obviously has a big heart.

      • romanhans

        It’s hard to forgive and forget when no one’s apologized. I was a bartender at a gay bar in the San Fernando Valley back in the 70s and I was repeatedly harassed by the police, once getting a jaywalking ticket at three in the morning on a deserted street by a patrol car that had been waiting for me.

        I guess it doesn’t happen these days, but we were hated so much and for so long it’s hard to believe they want to be friends now.

        (That said, I love the policeman in this piece and applaud his courage, empathy and erudition.)

        • wmforr

          A good news story from the 70’s. Madison WI: Gays were getting harassed leaving their bar by straights from the bar across the street at closing time. The police chief’s answer was to let the gay bar stay open an extra half hour till the straights had left.
          Same police chief who was asked at a festival, “Don’t you smell all the marijuana smoke?” and replied “Got a terrible cold. Can’t smell a thing.”

    • Jack

      The idea of members of a marginalized group making such a gross generalization is totally repugnant to me.

      I’m a Brooklyn Jew whose parents, for some reason, raised me in a neighborhood that was so goyish that the Bishop of Brooklyn lived on the next block. There were so may nuns, because of St. Joseph’s college further up the street, that when my younger sister was born I didn’t get why she didn’t wear a habit like the other sisters.

      • another_steve

        I’m a Brooklyn Jew too, though I’ve lived in Maryland for the past 38 years. But once a Brooklyn Jew, always a Brooklyn Jew.

        Who better than we queer Jews can grok the evil of indiscriminate broad-brush stereotyping?

        “All Jews are rich.”

        “All cops are racist.”

        “All religious people are aiders and abetters of evil.”

        Who better than we?

        • jixter

          Points for ‘grok’, a_steve!

        • Jack

          Unfortunately, may Jews are just as narrow minded. Even amongst ourselves, the Sephardim keep to themselves; Galiztianers make fun of Litvaks; Litvaks make fun of Galiztianers. And don’t get me started on how in this country, each successive wave of Jewish immigrants were feared by those who were already established.

          What a world. What a world.

          • another_steve

            True, what you say there.

            We’re Litvaks, and when my sister brought her Sephardic boyfriend (now her husband) to the house the first time, my mother went all farklempt. It was bad enough he wasn’t a Litvak but he also spoke Spanish as a second language, learned from his bubbe and his mother who spoke it routinely in their house.

            My mother recovered and had a good relationship with her son-in-law right up to the time of her passing.

    • Dave Fedorko

      I bet they were Bernie Bros. It seems we on the Left have our own crew of perpetual victims, like the TeaBaggers on the Right.

      • GreatLakeSailor

        I bet they were Bernie Bros.

        That’s rich. Condemning a gross generalization by employing a gross generalization.

      • CJAS

        It’s okay to generalize about Bernie Bros, but not cops. Got it. I’ll just email my Oxford graduate niece and tell her she’s a perpetual victim then.

  • Ragnar Lothbrok

    Well said ! Put this man in high office.

  • Todd20036

    Thanks, officer. You get it.

  • Rene Salinas

    Love

  • bkmn
  • Adam Stevens

    Take note straight guys. THIS is a man.

    • Ragnar Lothbrok

      And a REAL one at that.

  • djcoastermark

    This should be seen or posted at every church, school and Town Halls around the country. Great winning stuff Mr “Loser”

  • Tawreos

    This is making me get a little teary eyed today.

    • Butch

      I was going to say – I guess my allergies must be acting up. I needed some good news.

      • FAEN

        Yes-these days good news means so much more.

    • JoeMyGod

      Same.

    • zhera

      I thought it was just me being extra hormonal today but if everyone else is tearing up as well… *sniff*

  • Michael

    Wow, this give me chills for some reason.

    • Adam Stevens

      Because human decency is so rare these days, it can bring chills up the spine when witnessed.

  • Silver Badger

    This, THIS is a real man. Would that there were more like him!

  • Ninja0980

    This is why folks wanting to carry fuck the police signs at Pride parades are idiots.
    Yes, there are issues with the police and we have a long way to go towards fixing them.
    But alienating allies like this will ensure the fight to do that will be even harder.
    Kudos to you officer!

    • For all of the Christian bashing we do here — some of which is earned, some of which I’ve eagerly participated in — it’s wise to remind ourselves that we also have Christian allies. And Jewish allies, and Muslim allies, and Hindu allies…

      • thom

        Thank you, from an avowed agnostic the knee jerk reaction to ALL religion makes me cringe

        • FAEN

          All the organized religion I’ve come into contact with has been negative and hostile to our kind. Yes there are 🏳️‍🌈 affirming churches, temples etc but at the heart of organized religion IMHO is control, superstition and a dislike of anyone that is different.

          • m_lp_ql_m

            This. All my ‘knee-jerk’ reactions to religion have more to do with illuminating our allies into seeing how their own lives are being repressed by religion rather than just simple hate bashing.

          • Schlukitz

            You’ve hit the nail on the head, Sir.

            I, for one, and as a man who will soon be celebrating his 81st birthday, am sick and tired of hearing myself described by religious types as an “abomination”, having Leviticus thrown in my face and being told over an dover that I am going straight to hell if I do not straighten out, repent and start living they way they want me too.

            As far as I am concerned, all religious leaders (and the sheep who follow them) are just a bunch of bigots, haters and control freaks.

      • Cackalaquiano

        Thank you (and not a Christian here)

      • zhera

        You’re right, and I usually make a distinction between christians and christers/christianists.

      • ColdCountry

        And old straight white allies. It’s not just the young. In fact, while I find a lot of “the young” don’t care one way or the other, it’s seems to me to be “the old ones” who care passionately about equality. It seems that the older you get – like that cop – the more reasons you have to believe in the inherent dignity of all.

      • Schlukitz

        Unfortunately, those allies appear to be far and few between and for the most part, are drowned-out by the more vocal of the Christian haters. 🙁

  • SpiderPIG

    This brightens my day, I often think positive messages go unnoticed.
    And I’m also very happy to see Joe highlighting this.

    • another_steve

      Positivity, generally, doesn’t sell. Go to any of the news aggregating sources (Goggle News, for instance) and you’ll see that the vast majority of news stories their algorithms select are negative/bad news stories.

      Love to Blogmeister Joe for occasionally posting positive stories, including this one.

      • SpiderPIG

        Yeah, I remember reading a study/article stating that success of an online post relies on the negative reactions to it.

        • another_steve

          It’s not just the negative reactions; it’s the negative content of the stories themselves.

          I have access to the local TV news stations of both Baltimore and Washington DC since I live roughly midway between those two cities. I hardly ever watch them though. They’re too depressing.

          The first story out of the gate is usually the murder that occurred overnight. The next story is the fire that either killed or displaced a family of four. The next story is the overnight water main break.

          And on and on.

          • Jonathan Smith

            but they always devote 30 seconds to a heart warmer at the end?
            thats how the do it here in WV.

          • another_steve

            Lol. Yes.

            “And let’s end with this adorable video of a little girl getting her face licked by a dolphin.”

          • KnownDonorDad
          • another_steve

            There are two things and two things only in the known universe that are totally, irredeemably irresistible:

            (1) Oreo cookies taken with a glass of milk; and

            (2) A bucket of sloths.

          • Oscarlating Wildely

            “And let’s end with this adorable video of a little girl getting her face licked by a dolphin.”

            OH! They have our local news where you’re from, too!

          • SpiderPIG

            The fact that there are websites entirely devoted to publish hoaxes / fake / inflammatory / loaded news because they generate traffic BLOWS MY MIND.

            http://www.snopes.com/transgender-arrested-target-photos/

        • KnownDonorDad

          That might explain the toxicity of Yahoo comments. Honestly, reading those makes me fear for the future.

  • I hate this. I have a profound weakness for beefy bald men and this guy has the nerve to be straight. It’s so inconsiderate.

  • ETownCanuck
  • Ninja0980
  • TampaZeke

    Keep this man in mind the next time a Pride Parade organization makes the decision to exclude police officers from participating.

  • Gigi

    I’m not crying, I’ve got sand in my eye. No, I’m not near a beach but I’ve got sand in my eye and that’s why I’m crying so shut up about it!

  • yes b’y

    whoever is cutting up onions in here, please stop!!!!!!11

  • Jack

    My eyes got wet.

  • AJ Drew

    Is that hotty LEO calling himself “Huge Fat Loser”? cuz, nuh-uh.

  • thom

    Lovely!

    And thank you Joe for posting this. I’m sure you will get a lot of backlash for the post.

  • MB
  • JoeMyGod
    • zhera

      I’ll take the #freehugs! I’ll take all of him, please!

  • Oscarlating Wildely

    Let’s recall something: In cities across the US, calls for cops to be excluded from Pride marches continues (and yes, that was part of some Resist groups edicts). In Philly during the recent past, the cops were first to be honored with being grand marshals until the community freaked out and they withdrew from their honor. In NYPD, an LGBTQ officer group marched in uniform holding the American, rainbow, city, and state flags. In this same march, a group held a huge banner noting that you can’t be a cop and either support or be LGBTQ. Then this photo emerges.

    People who scream about Resist can have a voice and may well have a point. Bashing cops in the process is not acceptable and whoever the hell was in that group that held up the banner against LGBTQ cops and allies, all the while when people like this guy are supporting us, should be ashamed.

    • David Walker

      I’ve become so discouraged that I wonder if talking to each other is even possible. “I want it all and I want it now” isn’t new, but it used to be the start of compromise. Compromise no longer exists. I’m sorry to see it go.

  • MB
    • KnownDonorDad

      Can we have, like, every cop emulate this guy? Also acceptable, any of my many friends are are good, honest, hard-working LEOs.

  • Jacob

    Yes for him! Yes for good news!

  • zhera

    Lovely guy and lovely message! Definitely not a loser!

    • Gigi

      Big Fat Loser = he lost a lot of fat. 😉

    • SpiderPIG

      It took me a while, but I think he’s probably going for a “losing fat” pun.

  • MB
  • Brooklyn Joe

    OK – I’m verklempt in work

  • pch1013

    It’s a shame that so many in our “community” hate *him*.

    • Oscarlating Wildely

      Hear, hear. Again and again.

    • andrew

      IMO it’s very few in our community who hate on him. Just some extremists who can’t take yes for an answer.

  • Skokieguy [Larry]

    This gets me choked up. How wonderful and heartwarming and a counter to all the hate that seems to be increasing.

    THIS is what a real man looks like (and zero to do with appearance). A straight man who isn’t afraid of teh gays. He could bake a cake or attend a wedding or live next door to gay folks and have no issue with it, because we are not a threat to him, we’re just people. I wish he could sit down the cake baker and say “What the fuck bro’, what the hell are you so afraid of?”

  • KnownDonorDad

    You, sir, are a Huge Fat Winner.

  • rusty57

    I’m sorry. I need a moment, there’s something in my eye.

    • GreatLakeSailor

      damn onions

  • Randolph Finder

    Love the posting.
    But I still think we have something to teach him….

    It is “whose family just didn’t understand”, not “who’s family just didn’t understand.”

    • TuuxKabin
    • Oscarlating Wildely

      Why the ellipses after the sentence? Just use a period. Also, your punctuation is off. If you are using American English, both the comma and period go inside the quotation marks. In British English punctuation, it’s opposite. Both punctuation marks should be consistent. Yours are mixed.

      ‘Just saying.

      • (((GC)))

        And in logical quoting, commas and periods go inside the quotation marks if and only if they’re part of the quoted material (like the end of a sentence).

      • Randolph Finder

        I edited to move the period outside the quotes. Thank you for your notice. However in regards to the ellipses, what it followed was *not* a complete sentences.

        • Oscarlating Wildely

          But I still think we have something to teach him.

          That is a complete sentence. Also, hate to nit pick but you used the singular and plural in the same sentence above.

          • Randolph Finder

            I fall into those who do not consider it appropriate to start sentences with conjunctions. I know I fall into a minority in that way. Yes, the singular and the plural are used, but in this case, I believe it is proper. “I still think X” is singular, but the concept of what I still think is something that is a sentence using a plural concept in it. Similarly, the phrase “He thinks that sharks are dangerous” would have this concept.

    • (((GC)))

      I’ll forgive him a few grammatical mistakes, including the other errant apostrophe in “one of the best partners”.

      • Randolph Finder

        Forgive, but do not forget. 🙂

  • TuuxKabin

    Thank you kind and loving sir, it is you, and events for which you demonstrate your empathy and love that make me appreciate living in NYC.

    And things like this:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/empire-state-building-dead-and-company_us_5951d192e4b02734df2cf1fe?ncid=inblnkushpmg00000009

    • TJay229

      I saw that… It was awesome!

  • BearEyes

    All right reasons and then some
    Thank you and bear hugs

  • JWC

    Good man good message

  • Ish

    For Eric Garner
    for Akai Gurley
    for Ramarley Graham
    for Sean Bell
    for Kimani Gray
    for Reynaldo Cuevas
    for Shantel Davis
    for Shereese Francis
    for Timothy Stansbury
    for Amadou Diallo
    for Nicholas Heywood
    for Alberta Spruill
    for Malcolm Ferguson
    and for Marsha P. Johnson
    I don’t give a shit what this guy says

    • andrew

      This cop has more nobility in his little toe than you have in your whole miserable body.

      • Ish

        There’s no nobility in joining a gang of murderous bullies

        • Oscarlating Wildely

          I’d much, much rather dance with him than you and mourn his passing along with his widow who welcomed the March.

          https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vau__bezmn0

          You’re trying to forbid him from Marching AND our other LGBTQ allies AND those who are LGBTQ cops AND two thousand cops from taking part in Pride. Who’s the bully here?

          • Ish

            I would say the people with guns who have a record of murdering innocent New Yorkers of color. Why would you possibly want to be friends with such thugs in blue?

          • Oscarlating Wildely

            Yes, of course, the entire force does this rampantly, all the while telling the LGBTQ community to go fuck itself.

          • Ish

            We’ll the entire force certainly stands behind it. And their so-called union, the racist PBA syndicate, rabidly defends it. Also rabidly defend Trump and the worst racist politicians in the city.

    • Irish856

      You forgot all of these people killed so far in 2017
      Lt. Patrick Weatherford
      Deputy Sheriff William Durr
      Special Agent Michael Walter
      Deputy Sheriff Mason Moore
      Chief of Police Steven DiSario
      Lieutenant Kevin Mainhart
      My list goes on and on and on. All killed this year while trying do their job. 23 LEO’s have died this year by gun fire. And who can forget how Micah Xavier Johnson assassinated 5 Dallas Officers and wounded 2 civilians and 9 other Officers.
      I see videos like this and wonder why more Officers do not flip out.
      https://youtu.be/HYIKy0owNPc

      • Ish

        My list is a partial list of innocent people murdered by the NYPD.

        Fuck your racist bullshit, and fuck the police. And fuck a community that demands solidarity but refuses to offer it to others.

        #BlueLivesMurder #NoJusticeNoPride

        • Irish856

          LOL… I love when folks pull the race card when they lose the debate.

          Also… There was lots of pride in NYC (over 10 hours of it) and across the Nation and world… So seems like there is plenty of justice.

          • Ish

            I love it when white racists reveal themselves by using the shopworn phrase “the race card”

            #CopsOutOfPride

          • Irish856

            So… when you get mugged, or your apt robbed, or your partner attacks you… Who ya gonna call?
            GHOSTBUSTERS>???

          • Oscarlating Wildely

            No, they’ll just sit down in front of Stonewall and complain when they’re told to move as they are holding up leagues of people who are also part of the March and then wonder why people are pissed.

            News flash: those tactics didn’t work. Enjoy the notoriety. It will go nowhere.

          • Irish856

            Agreed… There were like 12 of them and, 40,000 of us in the parade and a million more cheering us on and booing them

          • Oscarlating Wildely

            Yep. And the fact that they made every single person wait *all the way up to fucking 36 stuck in place in the middle of goddamned heat* did not help their cause. Hope that they feel great about the marchers who got sick and had to leave.

            The cheers were heard from blocks away on their removal.

          • Oscarlating Wildely

            You do know that there are LGBTQ cops, right? Or are you saying that you have decreed that the March is for everyone but them? Just want to make sure.

          • Ish

            Would you really feel better if Eric Garner’s murderer was queer? Oh wait, you probably would.

          • Oscarlating Wildely

            Oddly, unlike some, I don’t paint a brush on hating people only because of their orientation or their profession.

          • Ish

            Speaking of false equivalencies.

          • Oscarlating Wildely

            My point is simple: You exclude an entire population based solely on their profession. You discount an entire group of members of our community who marched and protected millions of observers. You deem yourself to be the arbiter of who should or should not be allowed to march. You judge the entire NYPD, those who are in the NYPD and are POC, and then discount any and all work that the police force has done for outreach. You scream injustice and then effectively try to shut down a march as, wait for it, it isn’t up to your standards of activism. And then, when a person attempts to be express support, you say “I don’t give a shit about him” due solely because of his job and his race. And when someone calls bullshit on your ass and these completely ineffective tactics, your response is “you’re a white racist” (why do you assume that everyone who differs with you is white or a racist or are you assuming that the two go together? Isn’t that contention within and of itself racist?)

            If these are your tactics, I am glad to oppose you and I’m as Queer as the day is long but I have a feeling that *anyone* on the spectrum would readily disagree with what you are suggesting. And no, you don’t speak for all POC it’s offensive to suppose that your view is shared by them. You’re not that good. In fact, I would argue that several such people would find your tactics to be counterproductive and disgusting.

          • Ish

            Some “careers” are inherently vile. I don’t care how nice a person might be before joining the NYPD. Go into the NYPD and your job becomes the repression of people of color and the defense of white supremacy. Comparing joining the pigs to being queer is what is counterproductive and disgusting. Turning your back on people calling out for solidarity, like the communities of color who are routinely victimized by the NYPD as the gay community used to be, is what is counterproductive and disgusting. What is disgusting is choosing the murderers in blue as allies rather than the oppressed communities fighting for their lives against these murderers.

            Racism in the white gay community truly truly sucks. And people like you are wallowing in it.

          • Oscarlating Wildely

            Good luck with your cause. Your tactics have already doomed it.

          • Oscarlating Wildely

            Directors of the the event also have to show up about seven hours before the first step off at noon and often stay until the end of the dance on the pier. Seeing the sun come up twice is not uncommon. It’s a great event. It’s no picnic to manage.

          • Irish856

            I viewed the parade at the very end at Christopher and Greenwich Sts. Seeing the faces of how tired all the marchers were yet they energized. The Officers were helpful, tired yet friendly. I am glad that they were there for us to keep people in line like Ish.

          • Oscarlating Wildely

            That was wonderful! The looks were just that: tired but smiling, exhausted, but fulfilled. It was empowering. And I thank the cops who helped make it so.

        • Oscarlating Wildely

          Oh! You’re the group with the sign about all NYPD cops hating Queer folks! Yea, I stand with the leagues of observers who found you and your antics repugnant. You tried to create a stir. Your stint did nothing.

    • barrixines
    • Oscarlating Wildely

      http://www.goalny.org/

      Wait, and let me guess: Fuck all of them, too, even though i they are also as LGBTQ as the rest of us.

      Two thousand cops showed up in NYC to stand with the Pride March. Sorry if you don’t see that they are not worth consideration since obviously you have done SO much more to protect and serve this community than them and the LGBTQ officers that marched.

      This guy is an ally of mine and he’s as straight as the day is long. I don’t know you. I don’t want to.

      • Ish

        Hmmm. Lemme see. My “community”: clueless, selfish, racist white gays and their cop allies who will kill an innocent person of color at the drop of a hat for no reason….or oppressed people of any sexual orientation who share solidarity against racism and repression. Not a hard pick for me.

        Fuck bootlickers and cop apologists.

        • Oscarlating Wildely

          Wow, you are a witness for the opposition for LGBTQ equality. In fact, you’re all the evidence they need. Please don’t tell anyone you’re not hetero. It will be better for us all.

          By the way, there are also POC who are LGBTQ cops. Let me guess: race traitors, right? Your alliance is growing smaller and smaller. At this rate, you will certainly change nothing.

  • Acronym Jim

    I like that he kind of resembles Kurt’s dad from Glee.

    • SpiderPIG

      …Oh, yeah.

  • Acronym Jim

    Don’t forget to hit the recommend button.

    • TuuxKabin

      3:45pm EDST it’s at11 reco’s.

  • bmoore4026

    Wonder if he’s cuddly?

  • narutomania

    Hmmm … I think that “Huge Fat Loser” might just need a huge fat blowj- … I mean, a big hug. 🙂

  • Nowhereman

    Made me get all teary-eyed.

  • Kathy Mayo

    Good man!

  • A Black

    It must be nice being a straight white male because even when you do the very least to show support your privilege propels you to new heights. Wake me up when he’s doing something to change the racist justice system.

  • Fur Hunter

    This guy is AMAZING. This guy is AWESOME. This guy Totally gets it. I wish him health and happiness and may God keep him safe. Thanks, Man!