FRANCE: Posthumous Wedding For Gay Cop Slain In Paris Terror Attack, Former President And Mayor Attend

France’s The Local reports:

The partner of a gay policeman gunned down by a jihadist on Paris’s Champs-Elysees avenue in April has married him posthumously, according to reports on Wednesday. Former president Francois Hollande and Paris Mayor Anne Hidalgo attended the wedding on Tuesday of the late Xavier Jugele and Etienne Cardiles.

Jugele, 37, was shot dead on April 20 while on duty on the famous Parisian avenue, three days before the first round of France’s presidential election. The law in France states that posthumous marriages are permitted when there are “significant grounds” and terror attacks fall into this category, according to the government’s website.

More from the Independent:

Mr Jugelé, a prominent campaigner for LGTB rights within the police service, was shot dead on 20 April, three days before the first round of the French presidential election. His killer Karim Cheurfi, a 39-year-old French national, was known to the country’s authorities at the time of the attack and he had been detained in February for threatening to kill police.

After his death it subsequently emerged that Mr Jugele had been among the first responders to the attack on the Bataclan theatre in Paris in November 2015, where gunmen killed 90 concertgoers. Mr Hollande posthumously made him a knight of the Legion of Honour, one of France’s highest honours. Mr Cardiles captured the country’s imagination, during a tearful eulogy for his slain partner.

  • Lars Littlefield

    OK. While I appreciate the sentiment behind marrying the dead, it sounds suspiciously Mormon to me. This is something they do in their temple rituals. They call it “being sealed for time and eternity” to a person. It’s always struck me as major spooky.

    • j.martindale

      From a practical standpoint, it may entitle the survivor to survivor’s benefits, which in a situation like this are probably not insignificant.

      • DaddyRay

        I was thinking the same thing but they should have kept it private then

        • Chris Baker

          Do we have any details of the event, other than the President and Mayor were in attendance? The police officer was a famous person due the the circumstances of his death. It could have been a small private ceremony with the President and Mayor in attendance as a show of support. The photo accompanying this post is from a different event after the murder.

        • j.martindale

          If the men had planned to marry, I think it’s a romantic coda to the sad story. It is something I would want to do.

          Four years ago, when I married my husband after 23 years together, I was thinking it was simply a practical matter. I was altogether unprepared for the impact the event had on me. It is probably the most significant day of my life, after that first meeting where I gave him my VERY best smile and swept the boy (14 years my junior) off his feet. EVERYONE cried.

    • BobSF_94117

      Do you mean Mormons do this in cases of couples who planned to marry but death intervened before they could?

      • Lars Littlefield

        Yup. And they do it for old maids who no one wanted to marry, because no one can get into the highest degree of heaven without being married. There are so many weird things in that awful religion that it’s exactly like a bad science fiction story.

        • BobSF_94117

          Band science fiction story or best co-opting of basic human needs for profit in the history of the world. (Them or Scientology, which exploits a different set of needs, it’s a toss-up.)

          • Lars Littlefield

            If you can work in a little multi-level marketing in there somewhere you’ve really got some religion on your hands. Wash them with AmWay.

  • TheManicMechanic

    I have mixed feelings about this, but mostly positive. It’ll be fuel for the haters as well, I’m sure.

    • DaddyRay

      We get special rights to marry the departed. /s

  • another_steve

    Heart-breaking. Absolutely heart-breaking.

    Love to all our French sisters and brothers reading here.

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  • zhera

    I generally don’t approve of live/dead marriage but I get the sentiment here. Especially since same-sex marriage hasn’t been allowed that long in France and the dead policeman’s partner will get benefits as a widower (I assume).

    It’s just the whole issue of consent; it brings back the bigots’ arguments about marrying dogs and flagposts.

    • PickyPecker
      • Lars Littlefield

        If I were going to marry a lawnmower, I’d at least marry one I could ride and had a mulching attachment. 🙂

        • PickyPecker


        • AmeriCanadian

          And self-lubricating!

        • Rex

          If you can’t ride it how are you supposed to consummate the marriage?

          • Lars Littlefield

            I know. That’s what I’m thinking.

        • Gay Fordham Prep Grad

          I’m with you, if I am marrying a lawnmower at least it would be an upscale lawnmower.

          I am done with those manual versions I used to run around with when younger.

        • Palmer

          Is your pubic hair so thick you have to mulch it?

          • Lars Littlefield

            For that I use a Weed Whacker.

      • Bluto

        I love the smug look of righteousness on that assholes face. “I’ll attach a bouquet to my lawnmower, that’ll prove my point! Haha, gotcha fags!”
        Little does he know that the lawnmower is 2 timing with the snow blower.

        • McSwagg

          Shouldn’t that be the “delicate snowflake” blower?

    • Jerry

      “…live/dead marriage…” It worked out well for Melania.

  • Lars Littlefield

    Special Counsel Mueller just granted Jim Comey permission to testify publicly. How magnanimous of him.

  • bambinoitaliano

    Because a lost of a love one is a lost of a love one regardless who that love one is.

  • Superman

    The concept of marrying a spouse posthumously first came to France during World War I, when women would marry soldiers who had died weeks earlier.

    It opened to civilians in 1959, when a dam broke in Frejus, France, and killed 400 people, including an engaged man, who’s fiancee pleaded with then-President Charles de Gaulle to let her still wed her dead fiance.

    Posthumous marriage was then made legal in France with Article 171 of the Civil Code.

    The article states: ‘The President of the Republic may, for grave reasons, authorize the celebration of the marriage where one of the future spouses is dead after the completion of the official formalities indicating unequivocally his or her consent.

    ‘In this case, the effects of the marriage date back to the day preceding that of the death of the spouse.

    ‘However, this marriage may not involve any right of intestate succession to the benefit of the survivor and no matrimonial regime is considered to have existed between the spouses.’

    Since becoming legal, hundreds of people have formally filed for postmortem matrimony.

    They do so by sending requests to the president of France, and the request goes through a series of officials before it is finally approved.

    The man or woman filing for marriage must show that they had originally planed on getting married, and the family of the decesased must aprrove.

    Some requests include records that show serious cause, like the birth of the child.

    The marriage applies retroactively to the day before the deceased spouse died.

    The marriage does not permit the living spouse to receive any of the deceased spouse’s property or money.

    Read more:

    • Jonathan Smith

      thank you for that.

      • Lars Littlefield

        Well, fuck me runnin’ . . . ya larn sumpin’ new every day.

  • Lazycrockett
  • Sam_Handwich

    i certainly understand the symbolism, but am having trouble seeing how someone who is dead can consent to enter into a legal agreement

    • Sam_Handwich

      and what if Cardiles meets someone years from now and wants to get married? how do posthumous divorces work?

      • PickyPecker

        You and your covfefe.

        • northern_neighbour

          Covfefe has a different meaning which is code for COVerup (of) FErocious FEndoff. Thus Cov.fe.fe

      • northern_neighbour

        The way I imagine the law works, is that if you are married to someone who is dead, you do not need a divorce to then marry someone else.

        This union was symbolic of their heroic and lasting love for one another, and to add honour and dignity to the memory of his beloved partner, and his sacrifice in the line of duty, as well as a message of the power of love to the world.

        • Nychta

          To me that makes both mental and emotional sense.

        • Exactly, This wasn’t a marriage to obtain benefits or property, it was one of honor and love.

      • BockMcMillan

        Well, the living spouse is of course a widower and there will be no obstacle for them to marry again.

    • another_steve

      Sam, the human heart.

      The human heart is beyond reason and logic.

    • Gay Fordham Prep Grad

      To me, this is creepy.

      • GeoffreyPS

        I’m in the same boat. It sounds like the next stage after the Mormons baptize the dead.

    • JWC

      France sees matters of the heart a lot different than “Murica

    • Rob NYNY

      France has been doing posthumous marriages on and off since World War I. It entitled women to widow’s benefits and legitimated children. Mormons do it, too.

      • RemusL

        Mormons convert you posthumously, regardless of your or your family’s wishes.

  • FAEN

    What a civilized, humane and heartfelt gesture.

    Vive la 🇫🇷.

    • Jonathan Smith
    • Speaking of such honorable gestures – when we married my husband wanted my French last name. “No, no no…I loved his Irish name and thought I’d be Cary Ryan – short and sweet! Long moment, “Ok,” he suggests, “we can change our middle names to my last name. We legally changed our names and then married as Michael Ryan and Cary Ryan Chauvet.

      An annoyance I’d like to share:. I’ve had to correct people on the spelling of my name for the last ten years – not necessarily before that, except for my husband who, as teenagers, thought my named was spelled “Carrie”. That’s the most common spelling put down or that I have noted/corrected, sometimes “Kerrie or Kerry” but rarely Cary right off the bat. When I correct and say “C A R Y”, you know, like Cary Grant? Just 1 ‘R’.” I get a blank look then, “Was she a big star or something?”

      Does your first name “pre-supposes gender”? Do you run into this problem and how have you dealt with it?

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  • Rex

    They were already in a civil partnership – this takes it one step further. If it makes it any easier for the remaining spouse, then I’m happy for him.

    • Lars Littlefield

      That makes sense. Too bad that info wasn’t in post we all read. Thanks.

  • Rex

    The deceased was also posthumously knighted, which was a great honor as well.

  • Moebym Reborn

    What a kind, beautiful gesture.

  • Ben in Oakland

    Can you imagine this response had LePew been elected?

    Neither can I.

  • fuzzybits

    Those who say our relationships aren’t legitimate. I dare them to look at the pain on his face and say that. I’m not naive to think it would change some minds though. This was beautiful. ❤❤❤

    • JWC

      His eulogy to Xavier still brings on a flood

      • Cackalaquiano

        I would never have been able to hold it together as well as he did

  • Pat

    Mr Jugele’s partner Etienne Cardiles gave one of the most beautiful, heartfelt eulogies I’ve ever heard. This gesture which honors and recognizes their commitment speaks right to the heart of equality. Bravo, France.

  • BearEyes


  • Paul_in_Dallas

    Nuit d’étoiles, Night of stars,
    Sous tes voiles, beneath your veils,
    Sous ta brise et tes parfums, beneath your breeze and your perfumes,
    Triste lyre sad lyre
    Qui soupire, which is sighing,
    Je rêve aux amours défunts. I dream of bygone loves.

    La seriene Mélancolie Serene Melancholy
    Vient éclore au fond de mon cœur, comes to blooms in the depths of my heart,
    Et j’entends l’âme de ma mie and I hear the soul of my beloved
    Tressallir dans le bois rêveur. quiver in the dreaming wood.

    Nuit d’étoiles, Night of stars,
    Sous tes voiles, beneath your veils,
    Sous ta brise et tes parfums, beneath your breeze and your perfumes,
    Triste lyre sad lyre
    Qui soupire, which is sighing,
    Je rêve aux amours défunts. I dream of bygone loves.

    Je revois à notre fontaine At our fountain I see again
    Tes regards bleus comme les cieux; your gazes, blue as the heavens;
    Cette rose, c’est ton haleine, this rose is your breath,
    Et ces étoiles sont tes yeux. and these stars are your eyes.

    Nuit d’étoiles, Night of stars,
    Sous tes voiles, beneath your veils,
    Sous ta brise et tes parfums, beneath your breeze and your perfumes,
    Triste lyre sad lyre
    Qui soupire, which is sighing,
    Je rêve aux amours défunts. I dream of bygone loves.

  • Jean-Marc in Canada

    Pay close attention ‘Murika, this is how a civilized nation acts.

  • Pas plus d’honneur que de marier celui que vous aimez. Que leur amour vive pour toujours.. ( No higher honor than to marry the one you love. May their love live forever. )