VIRAL VIDEO: Heartwarming Danish Holiday Ad Shows Father Accepting His Transgender Daughter

Raw Story reports:

A new commercial from Denmark contains a heartwarming message for the holidays about acceptance and the power of familiar love. HelloGiggles.com said that the ad is for electronics company Elgiganten and is called “Let the gifts speak.” It begins with a family at Christmas opening presents. One member of the family, a teenaged trans daughter looks uncomfortable and ill-at-ease until her father hands her a gift. She opens it and smiles. The gift is a mini hair straightener, a sweet sign of her father’s acceptance of her identity.


(Tipped by JMG reader Per in Denmark)

  • safari

    Brings tears to my eyes. I think the closet my father came to acknowledging I’m gay is showing my ex all the guns he has hidden around the house.

  • PickyPecker

    Bravo!! Lovely advert!

    • Kryzie Knig

      10,085 comments. What a sad, lonely little man.

      • PickyPecker
        • zhera

          Who did you piss off this time, PP? Always getting your beak into other people’s business, tsk tsk. ;D

      • The_Wretched

        Flagged, Troll be gone.

      • The_Wretched

        Says the drive by troll on a temp log in.

        • ByronK

          All right, who left the screen door open?!!

          • safari

            I was trying to heat the outside. (It’s cold out there.)

          • ByronK

            I know. Watching the winter storm outside!!

        • Kryzie King

          You can call me a “troll,” but I am not saying anything different than what the owner of this site has said about the people here:

          “Jervis says many of his readers are middle-aged or senior gay and bi men, some with HIV, who have few outlets for connection with those like them.” – The Advocate 9/16/2016

          Sad!

          • PickyPecker
          • Tiger Quinn

            Troll.

            (you said I could call you that)

          • Oh’behr

            Troll won’t even allow people to view their comments. What a pathetic little troll.

            Nor block them. What a weasel of a troll.

          • zhera

            And where would that leave you, the one who trolls those readers?

            BTW I have more than 12,000 comments. Feel free to troll me about my sad life. You’re just ending up in the killfile anyways.

          • ByronK

            Sad is your interpretation of Joe’s quote which you have taken out of the larger context which contained it so you either lack comprehension skills or you are just a mean little piece of work with nothing better to do than to try to shame people for no reason. But nuance isn’t your thing apparently. The trouble is, you’ve showed up at an advanced painting watercolor studio with a black crayon and juice box. Now run along and stop embarrassing yourself you little fuckwad.

          • Lakeview Bob

            okay you fucking little bitch. I have been reading your nasty comments while trying to understand your point of view. I was trying to give you the benefit of the doubt but now you have pissed me off. You pathetic harpy. Go fuck yourself because I doubt anyone else ever would. Fucking bitch.

            And I don’t usually react to stupid people. But you have gone too far. Go somewhere else. You have insulted everyone here you stupid bitch!!!!

          • T-Batwoman

            Clearly the words community and kinship mean nothing to you…..

          • seant426

            Suck my block.

          • Oscarlating Wildely

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          • Grumpy Old Man

            Sad little troll – not even a hand up your butt to make you a puppet. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/a24a0a71cc9c0fc4c68f8b65f0c7fe21b97062d6c003cab93f2ee4aa261e8230.jpg

      • Tiger Quinn

        Says the sad, lonely little person who is just going after people to get a response. There have to be better ways to deal with your issues.

      • Porkie

        115320 Upvotes….What a cherished and loved friend and mamber of our community.

        • zhera

          It’s not often you get to see that comment/upvotes ratio!

  • Kryzie King

    That wasn’t heartwarming and using hair straightener doesn’t make you a woman. Transgenderism is radically reactionary and based on sex stereotypes.

    • The_Wretched

      bugger off

      Women aren’t always lucky enough to be born in the ‘right’ body. If you understood how complicated sexuality and gender are in a biological sense, you’d expect some number of women and men to be born in the other sex.

      And, it makes literally no difference to my life how someone else views their gender. Literally.

      • Kryzie King

        Wait, I thought trans activists instructed us that there is no “right body” for a woman to have. Now you are saying that there is a “right body” for a woman. It’s almost as if it’s made up as you go along! OTOH, if there is no right body for a woman to have, and if being a woman isn’t necessarily linked to any particular behavior or trait or identifying marker, then calling yourself a “woman”: really doesn’t mean anything.

        • Ragnar Lothbrok

          You were told to Bugger off. Now, do it.

        • Tiger Quinn

          Sorry, you were told to off-bugger. Get to it, please.

        • ColdCountry

          Wow, who pissed in your cornflakes?

          • zhera

            I soooo want to claim that, but alas, it would be a lie. I’ll put it on my list, though.

            To Do:
            -piss in Kryzie’s cornflakes (first pee of morning)

          • zhera

            Come to think of it, I believe Kryzie was dumped by a trans woman who up until that moment had identified as a gay man. So Kryzie doll here is upset about trans women getting bottom surgery.

            Damn, I should armchair psychologize more often!

        • Porkie

          ” then calling yourself a “woman”: really doesn’t mean anything.” Then why has it got up your arse then? …Just curious.

        • edrex

          ‘calling yourself a “woman”: really doesn’t mean anything…..’ maybe, maybe not, but calling you a c*nt does.

        • StraightGrandmother

          You being mean, won’t convince us to be mean like you.

    • safari

      Then you should have absolutely no objections with anything a person does regarding gender or sex because any classification would be a sex stereotype.

      • Kryzie King

        Um no. A man using hair straightener would not be a sex stereotype. Saying that using hair straightener is a sign of being a woman is sex stereotyping.

        • Tiger Quinn

          Um, goodbye. Um, okay? Um, good. Um, thanks.

        • Marti386

          Trans women aren’t men, and have a Merry fvcking Christmas.

    • ByronK

      And posting rude, bigoted, ignorant comments on the internet doesn’t make you a person anyone should pay attention to. Transphobia is radically reactionary ignorance, fear and deep personal insecurity.

    • Tiger Quinn

      Oh go fall in a ditch. It was very heartwarming.

    • Colonel Panic.

      1) it warmed my heart.
      2) Of course using a hair straightener doesn’t make one a woman. But that’s not the point of the ad is it? It’s about a man trying without words to say that he supports the young woman’s process of change.

      • StraightGrandmother

        And the dad’s face said, “I don’t understand it but if it makes you happy, here, here is a gift I hope will make you happy.”

        • TheThruster

          Exactly! 🙂

        • Colonel Panic.

          Perfectly put.

    • TMA

      A wild TERF appears!

      • Marti386

        Is that like a grue?

        “You were eaten by a TERF”. 😛

        • TMA

          It stands for Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminist

          • Marti386

            I know. I was making a joke about the old video game, Zork. 😛

    • lymis

      Sorry, we get to decide what warms our hearts, not you.

      And nobody says that using a hair straightener “makes you a woman.” But BEING a young woman who, but the indications such a short ad gives us, is struggling with her looks, being given a beauty product by her father could easily be a powerful reinforcement of her identity.

    • Nasty Girl Brianna
    • Robincho

      Bite me, you piece of mildewed shit…

      • greenmanTN

        LOL! I love blunt and profane people. Everyone else is dithering around trying to sound reasonable and they’re “Listen up, motherfucker…”

        • Robincho

          Thanks, My friends (both of them) accuse me of being awfully trying, but I DO try, at least…

          • greenmanTN

            I am the same way. I try and try to be perfectly reasonable, polite, and calm, then something hits me the wrong way and people are staring wide-eyed like, “Who the fuck let Mr Hyde out of his cage again?!”

            You don’t want to be a doormat, you don’t want to be an asshole, so you have to balance the two. The angel on my shoulder usually wins, but not always.

          • Robincho

            Often we find that angel sitting alone on our shoulder, because the devil has already worked his way down!…

    • TheThruster

      Pathetic, lowlife moron says what?

    • Marti386

      It’s not about the hair straightener, you moron. It’s about acceptance.

  • Ragnar Lothbrok

    All The churches should show this during holiday service.

  • T-Batwoman

    My dad showered me with practical women’s things the first winter solstice celebration after I came out, brings back great memories. My father is the best, in most ways anyhow.

    • Chucktech

      It’s great when fathers work out that way, isn’t it?

      • I was involved in a youth production of Peter Pan. I tried to explain the play to my dad, and if you’re from a reservation where you’ve never seen a play, or heard of J.M. Barrie, or crocks swallowing clocks, my summary basically amounted to “A Boy Who Can Fly” which what was on the play’s poster.

        He was the first American Indian in the state (for all I know, in the galaxy) to become Captain of the Fire Department, and he would need to periodically attend “Fire College” for training updates, so he missed seeing me. I played an ostrich and Nana. The Director forbid me to be one of the Indians (I thought I was a natural), saying the play’s about a White child’s fantasy, so the Indians on stage had to be White. Yeah. I didn’t by it when I was sixteen, either.

        When he came back from training, he gave me a box and inside was a statue of a cherub. First the gift made no sense to me, but then I realized from his perspective (since he wouldn’t have known what a cherub was)–he had gifted me with “A Boy Who Can Fly.” I really appreciated the statue–and him. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/99fb18a8157693f390833d6e98480f9564da77965d593fc19bd6952e7a3f6ba0.jpg

      • JD

        Beautiful story … is it possible that the teacher would have thought having you play an Indian was stereotypical typecasting? That’s certainly going on now in BC

    • Ragnar Lothbrok

      Lucky you. The only thing my dad ever said about anything is that ” they ” shouldn’t be allowed to get married.

    • Do Something Nice

      T-B, you made me cry! Thanks for sharing your story.

    • zhera

      Reading this comment made my day. Thank you! And I’m so happy for that you have that love and understanding from a parent.

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    • Tiger Quinn

      Can I just say how happy I am for you being in the Now, instead of the Then? Well done! You made it!!!!

    • Bj Lincoln

      You made me misty. I am so glad your dad was so accepting.

    • JD

      beautiful

    • Bill

      This touched me more than I could ever express in words, T-Batwoman.

      Thank you for sharing that.

      Love is real. Real is love.

    • Joe in PA

      Thank you. We all need to hear stories like this. Thank you.

    • greenmanTN

      That is wonderful. Many of us were blessed with parents who came through for us with love and acceptance, and it breaks my heart when I hear the stories of those who were met with anger, rejection, or worse when they came out.

      The night I came out to my dad I told him I had been afraid because I had heard stories of parents who kicked their kids out of the house, etc. His response was “I would rather cut off my own arm than reject you.”

    • Marti386

      I know. The first time I celebrated Christmas after transition, my mother gave me a makeup kit as a present. It had nail polishes, lipsticks and everything.

      My families acceptance has been the greatest gift I could ever receive.

  • Moebym of the Resistance

    A beautiful ad.

    It’s a damn pity that so many parents would rather see their children not as the people they are, but as possessions to be used and manipulated to act and look as they see fit.

  • we’re still here
    • Tiger Quinn

      And all the alt right freaks can now threaten to boycott a magazine they wouldn’t dare go anywhere near.

      • Cherry

        Didn’t some rightwing douchebag buy this magazine? robert Murdoch?

      • ByronK

        The one they only scanned through at the dentist’s office looking for the naked boobies on the native chicks.

        • Oh’behr

          Ha, I remember checking out a historical National Geographic photographic edition and someone had covered all the naked boobies and penises with masking tape. This was in a conservative suburban district. I was pissed and showed the book to the librarian as destruction of their property (which someone else had done). I hope they’ll catch the culprit.

          • Bj Lincoln

            My 5th grade teacher had cut all the naked parts out of every copy in the stack.

    • JCF

      AWESOME!!!

  • Tiger Quinn

    I remember that my mother told me, after coming out to her, not to ever bring it up again. Guess who got signed up to every mailing list, catalogue, and counseling service I came across for years, while being showered with MY SON IS GAY clothes and hats AND every gay DVD I could find. Sorry mum, but no.

    • Robincho

      Let ‘er rip, bro-tato chip!…

  • witch

    This gives true meaning of the word Love

  • Kevin Perez

    Denmark’s hottest ad is called Hair!
    This ad has everything:
    Old men, black nail polish, Christmas trees, human mini-decurlers..
    Human mini-decurlers?
    Yes, you know, it’s that thing that straightens a midget’s hair. /stefon

    • TheThruster

      lolling 🙂

  • edrex

    I guess the One Million Mom will have to stop eating Danishes. And at Xmas time no less. Well.. you know what they say “A moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hates.”

    • Marti386

      More Danish for me then.

      Mmmmmmmmm, danish. 😛

  • Nasty Girl Brianna

    I’m about to go home for Christmas for the first time since I came out trans. Really not sure how it’ll turn out but I’m not really hoping for a hair straightener since I’m in love with my curls 🙂

    • Cackalaquiano

      I wish the best for you.

      • RobynWatts

        Likewise. Hope it will be a good experience.

    • Joe in PA

      All the best to you Brianna.

    • greenmanTN

      I truly hope it goes well. My advice would be to go in with your back straight and be who you are, not on the defensive until they give you reason to be. 🍀

  • BeaverTales

    Love is a beautiful thing, and the ad was lovely. I have one teensy complaint. The music just wasn’t quite as warm and fuzzy as their sweaters, as far as holiday grooves go….

    I’ve been listening to the Mary’s and watching the snow sparkle under holiday lights and being very sentimental. Hibiki, dogs, fireplaces and lemon pound cake with butter pecan ice cream . Music soothes the wild beaver….

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NhqH-r7Xj0E
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_VCMl-620to

  • Ian

    Jeg elsker danmark og den danske folk. God jul og et godt nyt aar.

    • TheThruster

      Og vi elsker amerika, og ønsker jer alle en rigtig glædelig jul, og et forhåbentligt lykkebringende nytår! 🙂

      • Ian

        Tak i lige måde! Jeg var i Danmark som studerende seks år siden, og min oplevelser i Danmark har ændret mit liv for altid. Jeg boet hos en dejlig familie fra Lejre, og jeg er helt forelsket med Danmark og dansk. Jeg vil flytte derover, hvis jeg få en chance.

        • TheThruster

          Wauw, cool. Jeg ville være den første til at ønske dig hjerteligt velkommen! Jeg har mange fabelagtige favorit-mennesker her på JMG, og du er i sandhed een af dem 🙂

  • JD

    Wow–did not expect the sting of tears…great ad, touching. The older I get, the mre simple examples of love bring tears to my eyes.

  • Bill

    The acting, the music, the camera work, the message…

    In EVERY way, beautiful.

  • Grumpy Old Man

    Touching – especially with the dour Danish stoicism of the father (heart-strings plucked).

  • Grumpy Old Man

    I saw Hedvig in a live production last night; the friends who invited me have seen it multiple times. I loved it (at the end – at first I was ambivalent about Heddy, but that was the point of the show). There was some litter on the floor so I finally succumbed and picked up a piece and it was the playbill for “Hurt Locker: The Musical” – how wonderfully meta!!! I think that many in the audience missed it (one person I spoke with said “I saw that as I sat down and could not understand how/why someone would make that a musical” and snickered at the exposition)