ROAD HARD: Ex-Gay Nutjob Group Takes New Name

Via press release:

A high-profile non-profit organization that provides peer- support programs primarily for men who experience same-sex attractions – but who chose not to live gay lives or to identify as gay – is changing its name.

Known since its 2000 founding as People Can Change, the international non-profit is renaming and rebranding itself as an interfaith fellowship called Brothers on a Road Less Traveled – or Brothers Road for short. Its website is moving to Its new self-descriptor: “Men supporting each other in addressing our same-sex attractions in affirming ways that align with our faith, values, morals and life goals.”

This change also reflects an important acknowledgement of what has long been the reality of its mission and membership – that it is largely a religious community supporting members of a wide range of faith traditions, including Christians of all denominations, religious Jews, Muslims and others.

The group is best known for its experiential weekend intensives called Journey Into Manhood. In fact, this past weekend in Texas the organization concluded its 100th three-day Journey Into Manhood event. Since the first “JiM” weekend in Maryland in January 2002, the group has now presented Journey Into Manhood 100 times in 11 U.S. states and in England, Poland and Israel.

You may recall the account given by an undercover straight journalist who attended Journey Into Manhood a few years ago. An excerpt:

At one point, the staff members all sang out in unison, their voices filling the high walls of the camp lodge. Somewhere in the room, a man sobbed over the sound of the music. It was the first night of “Journey into Manhood,” a 48-hour weekend retreat designed to help gay men become straight. In that room, about fifty men — some thirty “Journeyers” and fifteen staff members — sat on the carpeted floor of a ranch lodge two hours outside of Phoenix, Arizona. Most of the men, except for a few of the staff members, struggled to overcome their attraction to other men. Sometime during all that holding and touching and singing, while I was cradled in the Motorcycle position, I felt it: the unmistakable bulge pressing through his tight jeans. It was the first time in my life I had a felt another man’s erection.

  • Lazycrockett

    Sounds like an late 90’s Gay Falcon Porn release staring the Rockland Brothers.

    • Phaius

      I came in here to say that that name sounds like a porn title.

      • ChrisMorley

        The follow-up, Brothers rode hard is better.

        • Dubito et cogitare

          And put away dirty…

    • Jeffrey

      I found them very hot. Even the retarded one.

  • Adam King

    Oh brother.

    • JCF

      Where art thou?

  • DrRobY

    When I first say their logo, I thought “Brother’s Load”. You can tell my mind is straight from the gutter.

    • Clive Johnson

      That’s the secret name among long time attendees.

    • Daveed_WOW

      Bareback Road Trip

  • Sean Williams

    There is a Hershey Highway joke in there somewhere.

    • agcons

      I’d have gone there if you hadn’t.

    • Charlie

      I was so lookin’ for it…or something about pounding the road (in runner’s terms)…something…there just MUST be something there…

    • Rex

      But that’s where the GPS took me!

  • The perfect anagram for “brothers road” is “abhorred sort”.

    • Or “basted horror”.

      • clay

        I imagine “basted horror” is the after-effect of “brothers road”

  • boatboy_srq

    Something tells me there’s a lot of hitchhiking and a lot of “nobody rides for free” on that road….

  • Adam King

    Their logo looks like coat-hangers.

    • Judas Peckerwood

      Appropriate for closet cases, no?

    • Treant

      The better to abort the gay babies with, my pretty.

    • bdsmjack


      • Ben in Oakland

        in a closet.

    • Butch

      Great minds….that was exactly my thought.

  • Wynter Marie Starr

    Show me a genuinely straight person and make them gay and then perhaps I would listen to this nonsense. If you don’t want to have sex with your own gender, don’t disrespect those that are willing to acknowledge the way they were born.

    • popebuck1

      According to Ben Carson, this happens all the time in prisons. Shut up for years in an all-male environment full of people with demonstrable poor impulse control, inmates have sex with one another. This is EXACTLY the same thing as turning them permanently gay.

      • Wynter Marie Starr

        Situational homosexuality isn’t the same thing at all. If they continued to date and fall in love with men after they are out of prison, they were either gay or bi to begin with.

    • Slade7

      So true. I even find their statement to be ridiculous: “who chose not to live gay lives”. It’s a sexual orientation whether you act on it or not. You can be 100% gay and a lifelong virgin. There is no “gay life” or “lifestyle” as they suggest.

  • popebuck1

    Brothers NOT In Arms PLEASE NO NOT In Arms

  • “The road less traveled” because why would you want to travel on a road filled with self-hate? The less that road is travelled the better.

  • Ronald Reagan is Dead!
    • grimnebulin2

      OMG, I just watched that movie for the first time last night.

      • Ragnar Lothbrok

        What’s it called?

        • grimnebulin2

          It’s John Waters’s “Female Trouble.”

        • Yixing’s Fluffer

          Pink Flamingos

    • Daveed_WOW

      That’s a fish, honey.

      • Ronald Reagan is Dead!

        Even better!

        • Daveed_WOW

          SO I guess that’s Ronald Regan, but at first I thought it was Linda Lavin.

          • Ronald Reagan is Dead!

            I love Linda Lavin, but yes it is madame Ronalda Regan

  • The Sentinel

    Get out yer tennis racquets!

  • bdsmjack

    So… basically a sex club for closet cases?

    • geoffalnutt


    • bmedle

      Well, I’m sure all of this holding and touching while rolling around on the floor is a scientific way of ridding these poor people of teh gay. At least that’s what Mr. Michelle Bachmann is saying. Many people are saying that, actually. And Marcus Bachmann is the best at eating hot dogs. The best! Believe me! We do the same thing at NAMBLA meetings.

    • Circle Thomas

      Closet cases who apparently don’t own password-protected smartphones.

    • rusty57

      We have a winner.

    • Johnson

      I would bet the Farm that’s EXACTLY what it is.

    • Daveed_WOW

      I’ve seen the movie version. Many movie versions. Put a bunch of horny young men in an RV with a camera crew. It writes itself. It also sucks itself, but it will only be on the BluRay.

  • Henry Auvil

    Wasn’t Brothers Road the name of an old Joe Gage porn flick?

    • Chucktech

      Joke’s on them!

  • agcons

    Oh, for fuck’s sake. Gentlemen, if you cannot handle it emotionally, accept that even if it seems impossible. It’s not good, but it’s still better than putting yourselves through this bullshit.

  • Jeffrey

    Hit the wrong key and went to BrothersLoad instead of BrothersRoad. Probably not that different.

    • Treant

      After the meeting, during the meeting. Most go thinking it’s a dating group.

  • Mike C

    Logo looks like a bunch coat hangers in a closet.

    • skyweaver

      That’s awesome, I hadn’t noticed that

    • Ragnar Lothbrok

      So they are pro abortion too ?

      • bmedle

        This is actually a subliminal Log Cabin Republican advertisement. A bunch of self-hating gay men showing women the latest fashions in abortion after they get their “Defund Planned Parenthood” wet dream completed.

      • bambinoitaliano

        In case some anal beads got stucked.

    • Nic Peterson


    • Sk3ptic

      I thought the same thing. Those padded satin hangers with little pink bows hot-glued on.

    • prolefeed5

      My immediate impression was 3 guys lying in bed together…

      • ElenorRigby

        I was thinking “3 sad cyclopses.”

      • Ander

        That was my first impression before I knew what it was about.

      • Robincho

        They’re checking to see whose “road” is, in fact, the less well-travelled. (Hint; Nobody’s…)

        • Librarykid

          While the complete form of the name makes sense, “Brothers Road” makes no sense substantively and looks grammatically incorrect.

    • Chucktech

      At least there are no wire hangers, EVER!!11!!1!

      • Gene

        I wont fuck with you, nor will any of the other fella’s (unless you ask them to!)

        this is obviously not your first time to the rodeo!

      • BradCerenzia

        So they’re anti-abortion, too…?

      • Librarykid

        An interesting clue about the hangers and other things is in an interview Larry King did with Christina Crawford for the 20th anniversary of the book that was rebroadcast sometime over the weekend on a late night cable program.

    • bkmn

      I thought it looked like a bunch of guys at a wall of gloryholes.

    • Marides48
      • pj

        a three way of sad clown faces

    • RaygunsGoZap

      The Unhappy Cyclopses, a tale of denial

    • Michael Abbett

      Three sad, lonely coat hangers in a closet. Perfect.

    • ceeenbee

      Typographically, it’s a mess. Why are the words Brotherhood, Road, Less and Travelled in bold and the words On and A in regular?

      You would think that with all the closet cases in that org they could have come up with something better.

    • Orly

      Great observation! It does!

  • Treant

    Seven rides for seven brothers?

    • The_Wretched

      they can take turns, round robin style

  • Adam King

    They should change the name to “Get Over Your Brainwashed Self Road.”

  • Mrs. Councillor Nugent

    “You get to be a lesbian.”

  • Treant

    The Brothers Rimsby?

  • Pollos Hermanos
    • good shot green

      The Double Douche!

      • Daveed_WOW

        Probably wise if you’re going to hang out in a group like that!

  • Steverino

    The issue isn’t “unwanted same-sex attractions,” the issue is unwanted people with same-sex attractions.

  • “In that room, about fifty men — some thirty “Journeyers” and fifteen staff members — sat on the carpeted floor of a ranch lodge” naked, wearing only jockstraps…

    Later, men split off into smaller groups, often with one on his knees, surrounded by five or six other Journeyers while they prayed in a standing circle around him. The Journeyer on his knees often exited with joy on his face…

  • Rex

    Kinda sounds like an alternative to Grindr.

  • AndyinChicago

    I’m always up for some male bonding with a guy who thinks he might be gay and wants to know what to do about it. But he won’t be calling himself straight in the end.

    • Chucktech

      No, he’ll just burst into tears instead.

    • Reality.Bites

      Nor will anyone who sees him walk.

    • JCF

      …nor straight anywhere else!

  • The Milkman

    Those poor souls can call it whatever they want, but they’ll never find peace until they accept themselves as they are.

    • Gil

      It is like going on a trip with a lot of unnecessary baggage.

  • CottonBlimp

    “Brothers Road”. That logo looks like three brothers sharing a bed together.

    These Christians are into some kinky shit.

  • Rex

    Another weekend with the boys?!
    You’re never home anymore.

    • Reality.Bites

      “Daddy, when will I be old enough to go on a men’s weekend?”

  • NancyP

    Truth in Advertising – “ex-gay” programs have a track record of being a decent pool of relationship-seeking (with sex – as opposed to one-offs) gay Christian men.

  • Paula

    I’m sure some of those brothers done been rode.

  • Liberal Elitist
  • Dave Babler

    Reported the youtube vid for TOS promoting self harm violations. This is exactly what this is, it promotes self-harm. I suggest everyone else do the same.

  • Chucktech

    What’s the name again, Buddies on a Road Well Traveled?

  • Rex

    Lube will make taking that less traveled back road a little smoother.

  • Blackfork

    And not a single word about the overwhelming desire to bury your face in a vagina. Yeaaaah.. real change.

    • Ore Carmi

      I know! “Road less traveled–” Sure! Because most men don’t fuck women, or something.

    • JCF

      Mmmmm, Hot! ;-p

  • Ore Carmi

    Oh brother! “Men who experience same-sex attractions–but who chose not to live gay lives…” If you experience same-sex attractions, you’re gay (or bi), and if you’re gay, you’re living a gay life, whether or not you’re having (acknowledged) relationships with members of your own sex/gender.

    Also, that logo creeps me out.

    • Yeah, about that logo. It simultaneously looks like three dudes having a threesome…but being vewy, vewy sad about it.

      • lizdhm

        Maybe they’re all waking up in bed the next morning and seeing each other without beer goggles.

      • Ore Carmi

        It’s the hairdo that gets me, somehow.

  • LackofFaithify

    If being gay just doesn’t work for you….then come to the middle of the woods to hang out with nothing but men….

    • The_Wretched

      …and we’ll make it easy for you to find men just like yourself.

      • LackofFaithify

        we provide the lube. I mean meals included.

  • Marides48

    I’ve made a journey into manhood many times. So many times, I’ve lost count.

    • Reality.Bites

      How long was the average journey – six inches?

      • Marides48

        One way or round trip?

      • Daveed_WOW

        Only if you have a limited imagination.

    • GanymedeRenard

      And many times I’ve felt like I’m the very manhood that has been journeyed into by many men. *Giggles*

  • Mike in Texas

    Amazing what a long tantric yoga weekend in the woods can do.

  • colaboy29

    So it’s J Date for closeted men?

  • LackofFaithify

    “20 years ago, I was the one that was lost.”
    Channeling Leslie Jordan, “Oh honey you still are lost, just in the woods now.”

  • So basically it’s rebranded itself as a group where gay men who pretend not to be gay can hook up with each other and have gay sex, then talk themselves into believing it was just cuddling that went a little too far…again.

    But hey, next weekend will be different, for SURE!!!

    • Tulle Christensen

      Remember it is not gay if the balls do not touch

  • Jerry Hinnant

    I’m sure it turns into a journey into sexual manhood sessions or J.I.S.M. soon after the festivities begin!

  • poor boys. still crippled by religious fear, and cultural emasculation. there’s nothing “manly” about being ashamed of being gay. quite the opposite.

    i have pity for these wimps. their lives must SUCK.

    • Reality.Bites

      Except they pretty much have guaranteed sex after every meeting.

    • The_Wretched

      they really should grow a pair and leave their churches.

  • jmax

    Brothers on a Road Less Traveled with Occasional Stops at Rest Area Bathrooms.

  • NancyNoNo

    To each his own…

    I’ve never been the type to join a group. I’ve managed to find LOTS of peer support in bars, bookstores, bath houses and online. My parish priest has been a doll, introducing me to the other single men in the congregation.

  • kaydenpat

    Just let people be themselves. Sigh.

  • AtticusP

    Road less travelled?

    It looks like a dead end to me.

  • TimJ

    Road hard. That will be the name of our new album/magazine/website/brewpub, stay tuned!

  • penpal

    “the road less traveled” is probably a euphemism for an anus, in this case.

  • lizdhm

    Well now you’ll be feeling the boner of a brother?

  • BearEyes

    as if being gay is somehow different than manhood? really?

  • bambinoitaliano

    Another place where self hatred homosexuals can hook up.

  • boatboy_srq

    OT: it may just be how I’m connected and where I am, but I get a boatload of ads from Freedom Munitions popping up on JMG. FYI folks.

  • BrienneOfTarthCarolWalkingDead

    “Brothers Road” “Manhood Weekend” “Journey into Manhood”

    Sounds like a fun orgy!

    • Fyva Prold

      Circle Journey

  • GanymedeRenard

    1. “A rose by any other name…”

    2. Do you people not realize that by renaming your fraud of a group you’re also admitting that (gay) people cannot change?

    3. I don’t see the word ‘sisters’ in your new name. It’s always gay men that worry you people. Gee, I wonder why.

    4. Gay men are obviously MEN. Are you suggesting that we’re deprived of ‘manhood’ (whatever your notion of it may be) and that therefore we need to seek it? Idiots.

    • Friday

      These monotheists don’t really think women are supposed to have a say in our own sex lives in the first place.

      • GanymedeRenard

        Exactly. Women just don’t exist, in the minds of these people, as autonomous beings to begin with.

    • Daveed_WOW

      “Men must not get fucked” I don’t remember who said that, but it sums up the homophobic agenda pretty well.

  • JR
  • HeyYouKidsGetOffMyLawn

    They may truly live in a dark, dank closet in a house at the corner of Denial and Girl, Please…..

    ……but I am OK with the existence of this group….as long as it’s ADULTS who are WILLINGLY PARTICIPATING, as long as it’s not presented as the only way for any adult gay man.

    But if they start plugging this as the only righteous path, or force it on anyone under, say, 21? Fuck THAT noise.

  • txstevo

    They changed their name to dodge their terrible Yelp reviews

  • EweTaw

    Brothers Road Hard is more like it.

  • Megrim Twist
  • Lane

    “Men supporting each other in addressing our same-sex attractions in affirming ways that align with our faith, values, morals and life goals”

    I do the same damn thing as an out and proud gay man living with my lawful husband, along with our friends and family. Huh.

  • Fyva Prold

    “The group is best known for its experiential weekend intensives called Circle Journey Into Manhood.”

    • Oikos

      Circle Jerk Into Manhood.

  • Oh’behr

    I’d rather be in a supportive environment. While long gone, I recall the name of a Minneapolis gay bookstore, Brother’s Touch.

  • Oikos

    So it’s a hookup club for closet cases.

  • IamM

    Brothers’ Road? Sounds like a title of the kind of porn you flip past really quickly while going, “Nope, nope, nope.”.

  • DaveMiller135

    When I was about 13, my gymnastics coach gave me a ride home on his motorcycle, laughing at my reticence, and telling me to hold on around his waist. As DeeDee says, mockingly, in “The Opposite of Sex”: “I never really was the same, after that summer.”

    • abel

      That’s kind of sweet, actually.

      • DaveMiller135

        Incredibly sweet, just not a good position for ignoring your attraction to other guys. Or allowing them to ignore it.

  • A little bit of repackaging does not improve the product. It is interesting to note that there is a shift to language that plays down expectations of “change”. It seems to me that now that the door has been opened to consumer fraud cases being brought agasint ex-gay groups that they are forced to be more honest in saying that they can not in fact promise change from homosexual to heterosexual. So they now present themselves more as “support groups” and place a bunch of qualifiers around any talk of change.

    • Friday

      But stil politically support anti-LGBT causes no doubt.

  • David

    It sounds like a hookup source for religious guys and dudes who don’t want to call themselves gay?

    • Robert Conner


  • ElenorRigby

    On a related note… the music in that clip seems to be the same music used in the “Cauke PAC” video for GBLT workplace equality.

  • Keppler2

    So, I guess this means People Can’t Change After All. Good to finally know.

  • glass

    They needed to rename it “Friends Without Benefits, No Homo”.

  • RealityBass

    It’s like that old saying, the Brothers Road is paved with good intentions.

  • Hank

    Brothers on a Road Less Traveled ….. hmmm I see lots of them in the leather bars!!!/s

    • Traxley Launderette

      And in Craigslist.

  • KnownDonorDad

    You know what, if an adult wants to live a sexless existence out of some revulsion to their own sexuality, that’s their right, but promoting the idea that there’s a medically viable way to change sexual orientation is dangerous quackery.

  • Corsair Tact

    Road Less Traveled? That’s the coming out road. What they’re “offering” is as crowded a highway as Route 1/9 was before the Jersey Turnpike was built and about as timely.

  • KCMC

    “Men supporting each other in addressing our same-sex attractions in
    affirming ways that align with our faith, values, morals and life
    As I recall, one Bear camp I attended had similar flyer.

    “Pagans, Buddhists, and Bears, Oh My.”

  • James

    Wow. Terrible name.

  • Richard Rush

    For some men, I’m sure that Journey Into Manhood becomes much more satisfying than they expected . . . as it turns out to be Journey Into Manbutt.

  • Patrick Thomas

    I knew the founder ages ago (back when I was living in the closet). He was actually a kind person. So sad he can’t accept himself.

  • Robert Conner

    Their logo looks like a “No Wire Hangers” ad.

  • Traxley Launderette

    Bitter self-loathing is never the look, boys.

  • ceeenbee

    I’d bet the Grindr servers crash in areas of those meetings.

  • LovesIrony

    oh brother

  • I came here for the “back road” and “chocolate highway” remarks. “Road less travelled,” indeed. Let’s see if I’m disappointed…

  • JT

    Brothers on a Road Less Traveled

    Brothers on the down low road.

  • JT

    Journey into manhood weekend.

    Is that on Fire Island?

  • ScottSinEC

    Okay, what is the “motorcycle position”?

  • Natty Enquirer

    Great porn title.

  • Orly

    Known since its 2000 founding as People Can Change, the international
    non-profit is renaming and rebranding itself as an interfaith fellowship
    called Brothers on a Road Less Traveled – or Brothers Road for short.

    So, they’re giving up on the lesbians then?


  • Platos_Redhaired_Stepchild

    Jeff is a hockey mask away from becoming Lord Humungus.

  • andrew

    If some adult gay males want to join an organization to help them become straight, that’s their personal business. It’s unfortunate that as adults they don’t realize that is about the same as a man of one race trying to become a man of another race. Lots of time, money, tears and prayers and in the end their sexual orientation will remain the same.

  • Phillip Brandt

    Lives not lived as they were meant to be lived are lives wasted. Self hate will arise in these men…so sad.

  • Grumpy Old Man

    The full expression is “Road hard and put away wet” (yes, I know what homonyms are, pun intended)

  • JCF
  • CKKimber

    o.O Brothers rode what, exactly?