German filmmaker Kai Stänicke’s heartwarming Golden made the rounds of LGBT film festivals last year and he’s posted the short to YouTube this week in response to the Pulse massacre. You’ll be glad you spent the three minutes on this.

  • Robincho

    We must all of us never miss out on our golden opportunities… this is awesome!

    • That_Looks_Delicious

      The part of it that rang really true for me: It’s only once you take a risk and fully accept yourself, that you start to recognize the journeys that other people are on and have some true compassion. At least that’s how I interpret the part at the end where he suddenly remembered/realized all the other gold people he had run across after the kiss.

      • Robincho

        Your observation is bang on… it’s like the day when you can finally do it — swim under the pontooned rope and see what it’s all about in the deep end (or the open ocean). And what a blessing to learn that there are other timid swimmers (and not all fish are fashioned solitarily)!…

      • Eric in Oakland

        When I was a teen and twenty-something it didn’t occur to me that there might be gays like me, who were just like everyone else. I thought gay people were always flamboyant or gender nonconforming, so didn’t look for evidence among my ordinary peers. I was also too busy hiding to be searching. It was only years later, when I came out in my thirties, that I discovered some of my associates had been going through the same thing. This film reminds me of the parable of the lamp. We only really see our surroundings once we stop hiding our light.

        • Gigi

          I’m glad that you finally came out. That’s the main thing! I did the exact opposite: I went searching when I was quite young. Came out at 18. Was LOUD AND PROUD! After a few years and several reinventions I finally found out what kind of gay I was.

          • Eric in Oakland

            Thank you. My husband is like you. He’s been out since his teens and doesn’t understand why anyone would have trouble coming out. Of course he didn’t grow up in the Deep South or have hyper religious family as I did.

          • Gigi

            I didn’t say that coming out wasn’t any trouble. I grew up in a farming town, surrounded by people who hated “the sin of homosexuality.” I came out when I was too young to care or understand what the backlash might be. My family disowned me. My mother met my husband for the first time about two months after we celebrated our 20th anniversary. We all have different stories and struggles but at the end of the day they’re what make us who we are.

          • Eric in Oakland

            Sorry. I didn’t mean to imply that it was easy for you. When I said that my husband was like you, I only meant that both of you accepted your sexuality and were out at a much younger age than I was.

            I don’t think my husband had it easy either. He grew up in Mexico and was attacked and even arrested for being gay when he was younger. However, his family was supportive except for his oldest brother.

            I’m sorry to hear about your family. I don’t know if I would have been disowned had I come out as a teen, but I knew enough to be afraid of anyone discovering my differences. My father was abusive, and I grew up being very careful of his moods and attitudes. He didn’t even like me having male friends. My mother wasn’t allowed to have friends at all. He died when I was in my late twenties and my mother remarried to a man who has been a much better husband and father than the one I grew up with.

            You’re right. We all have different stories and different struggles. I think it makes us stronger as a community, and hopefully makes it easier to empathize with others.

        • It’sNotThatHarf

          The fact that “gay” means “men who are sexually attracted to men” wasn’t clear enough for you?

          • Eric in Oakland

            I know that’s what gay means NOW, but I didn’t when I was a teenager. There was no internet or social media back then. All of my information came from limited books, television, and religious instruction.

          • Gigi

            Who so snarky?

      • cheakamus

        You have to love yourself before you can love someone else.

  • Sam_Handwich

    i suspect we all remember wading through that confusing Kafkaesque quagmire of same-sex attraction …. different ages for all of us, but a similar experience that is beautifully portrayed here.

    • Gay Fordham Prep Grad

      pretty much nailed it.

    • Gigi

      So eloquently stated. Have you seen this video?

      • WebSlinger

        Love me some Kadie Elder…people need to absorb this NOW…

        • Gigi

          This song makes me happy. As does the ending of the video. That burst bubble.

  • motordog

    Beautiful short film…a nice bit of uplifting art at the end of a hellish week.

  • ExGayTherapyKills

    Thank God a gay film with a happy ending. Now that’s golden!

  • bkmn

    Our differences make US stronger, and the haterz hate that.

    • Gigi

      Being out makes us stronger too.

  • j.martindale

    Yeah, it was almost exactly like that. I wasn’t as pretty, though.

    • Guest

      Yes you were.

      • j.martindale

        Just for today, this is my avatar. Twenty five years ago, my husband and I were a little more “golden” and a little less burnished.

        • TuuxKabin

          Sweet & golden. Like honey.

          • j.martindale

            You would probably not say that if you saw what the decades have wrought.

          • TuuxKabin

            It’s what’s on the inside that counts. I’ve always liked your (usual) avatar and your input to these ‘threads’. Even when I may not agree, I most often come around to the point you want to make as you expound on it when discussion ensues.

    • slater619

      Yes you were/are Jaren

    • TuuxKabin

      The hell you say. Come here, lemme lick yo’ face. Woof!

  • another_steve

    Oddly beautiful.

    I do hope for the day, however, when we see the full spectrum of LGBT people on film and video.

    Not young. Not slim and beautiful.


    • David Walker

      “Love is Strange” is a good start. They’re out there, but your point is taken: You do need to hunt them out.

    • sfbob

      If you’ve got access to the LGBT film festival circuit look for a short film from Norway called “Thank You for Dancing.” Saw it today at the Frameline Festival here in SF and it is absolutely amazing. The main characters are a gay male couple both of whom are seniors and quite average-looking. And the story is very powerful.

    • BobSF_94117

      That is ordinary, at least in Berlin.

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  • Joe in PA

    JMG, you were right.

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  • David Milley

    That was very well timed. Thanks, Joe.

  • Bernie Keefe

    We’re all golden.

    • TuuxKabin

      We are stardust, we are golden, we are billion year old carbon,
      And we got to get ourselves back to the garden.

      Crosby, Stills & Nash

      • LeftyNYC

        I love the CSN version of this song, but you gotta credit Joni Mitchell for writing those lyrics. Joni is Golden.

        • TuuxKabin

          Love her version better! Funny, I Googled ‘Woodstock’ to make sure it IS a Joni Mitchell song. Google stated performer(s), not composer. Thank you for confirming it’s Joni Mitchell’s song. Yes. She is quite golden.

  • fuzzybits

    Thanks Joe. 🙂

  • fuzzybits

    To all the folks on JoeMyGod and all my LGBT brothers and sisters,Happy Pride!

  • HanyBaal

    The daddy is CUTE

    • Natty Enquirer

      Ja wohl!

    • Treant

      Yeah, I’d paint Daddy in a nice golden shower.

      Er…let me rephrase that.

  • tomfromthenews

    Seems like we ARE everywhere! Nice film!

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  • MrRobotoLA

    This is gorgeous. Reminds me of the YA short story Am I Blue? by Bruce Coville.

  • That_Looks_Delicious

    That was amazing and beautiful. I love when talented filmmakers can tell whole, compelling stories without relying on words.

  • GanymedeRenard

    Brief, graceful and tender. Brilliant! Many thanks, Joe.

  • DumbHairyApe

    Very interesting that he didn’t see any other golden people until he became himself. 🙂
    (Gorillas are good at stating the obvious.)

  • Emarell

    The film was spot-on for me in an emotional history way. It was a poetic sort of depiction of those experiences – the pain of covertness followed by the joy of connection and liberation.

    Yet I would love to see a remake without gold paint. (Something, for example, accomplished by lighting might be an option better suited to the film’s themes. Or by wardrobe.) Gotta say, the paint was off-putting; it looked dirty. I kept fighting an urge to scrub it off the actors, especially in the film’s final moments.

    • Six Pins Delores

      Red shirts? JK. Interesting take on this…

      • Emarell

        Sorry, who is JK?

  • billbear1961
    • That_Looks_Delicious

      One of my favs!

    • coram nobis
    • I’ve had FB friends traveling in Italy the past 10 days or so, and every time they post yet another perfect photo, this is all I can hear! Merchant/Ivory have a lot to answer for…

  • Nychta

    A beautiful, moving film. I love how after his golden encounter, after he realizes he isn’t alone, the film returns to past awkward scenes and shows him confident and happy.

  • Traxley Launderette


    Thank you, Joe.

    For this, and for all that you are and all that you do. You have no idea how much you help me every single day find a path through this increasingly insane world, and realize my place and worth in it.

    You’re an angel.

    • coram nobis

      Yes, and he finds these jewels here and there. He is a place and a solace.

    • Robincho

      Yer not so bad yerself, kiddo… 😉

  • DaddyRay

    OT: Justin Bieber Falls Through the Stage During Concert in Canada

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    • Homo Erectus

      I know, right?

      • coram nobis

        I don’t know how Joe came by this, but, yes.

  • DaddyRay

    What I have to say was my favorite part was when he started seeing other golden people in the world around him. When you are first discovering what it is about you that is different you can feel like you are facing the world alone. Even as you get older and start seeing others like yourself in all shapes, sizes, races, genders and ages it provides a measure of comfort that you really are not alone in this world.

  • ExGayTherapyKills

    Stay golden.

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    • KQCA

      Joanne, you can make even more money at that online porn you’re doing if you’re willing to take on the 2 Girls 1 Cup sort of gig. Good luck with that internet venture there.

      • agcons

        One of these days we’ll hear from Mary, I just know it.

        • Salton

          Mary’s too busy doing porn to spare time to write such lengthy posts.

        • Ben in Oakland

          Mary is a barely literate whore. That’s why she never posts anything herself. She’s too busy giving blowjobs down at the QwikeeeMart.

  • Hal Watts

    Wow! Thank you, Joe, for posting this positive video–we all need it right now. And thank you for providing this website, which is a “home” for all of us to check in to daily (or in my case, many times a day)!!

  • JCF

    Off-topic: tonight in Tampa, at the Giants-Rays game, Tribute to Orlando (inc “Una Voce”, Tampa Gay Men’s Choir, singing the Natl Anthem)

    [FWIW, Giants won 5-1]×920.jpg

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    • DaddyRay

      I couldn’t pay attention to anything other than how he should be spending all that energy cleaning his room

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  • TuuxKabin

    Thank you Joe! This is an example of why I’m always talking up JMG when out with friends. As I said tonight, I get all the news I want from JMG.

    Next to my wee, happy dwelling with el husbian, you and the JMG Air Force of Flying Monkeys are my second home.

    Snuggles to Shelly.

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  • Dean

    We find each other , but our strength is our diversity

  • Joseph Miceli

    I remember a post when Joe talked about his “bee girl” moment. This is very much like the video from Blind Melon, isn’t it? Only this one speaks not just to everyone, but directly to us.

  • Gigi

    This heartwarming song by Kadie Elder pairs well with this short film. Enjoy!

  • Puckfair52

    Never Miss Those Golden Opportunities. Here’s Mine. A Documentary about My Husband and Me. Or Life His Heart Transplant. Laughter Abuse abandonment Art Ballet our Marriage and Finally His Death

  • SoCalGal20

    Beautiful. Thank you for posting this, Joe.

  • Jean-Marc in Canada


  • Bj Lincoln

    I got misty. We have all been there. Life became so much better when I could see all the Golden people.

  • agcons

    This was lovely. If only, especially 40 years and 40 pounds ago.

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  • TheManicMechanic

    Lovely. Absolutely lovely.

    I could only wish that “my people” could only see how beautifully unique and very special they are. And that they are not alone.

  • David

    Ok that hit harder (in a good way) than I was expecting on a Monday morning at the office.