Open Thread Thursday

Tell us about your holiday traditions. Do you spend this time of year with your biological family or with, as Armistead Maupin famously call it, your logical family? Do the two intermingle?

  • barracks9

    Christmas Eve will be a swell cocktail party at a friend’s house, where I’ll do most of the cooking while she bartends and keeps me liquored up. Christmas Day? Off to see The Force Awakens after making pain perdu for my best lesbian friends.

    I love my biological family, and am eternally grateful that more than 20 years ago, we gave up the silly notion that we all have to rush home at the end of December for some idea of a Norman Rockwell holiday that doesn’t actually happen that way.

    We all have our own families – with me here in NOLA, one sibling in Alaska, one in NY, one in MA, and another in Baden, Austria, we’re realists who like to enjoy the holidays without the insanity of family. It works for us.

    • Ian

      I was at my boyfriends co-workers holiday after party. They’re all teachers. And the little napkins that they had said, “The tree’s not the only thing that’s gonna get lit.” So … +1 on the liquored up bit.

    • madknits

      I’ll be in NOLA for New Years, unpacking in my new apartment in the Marigny on New Year’s Day. Come by for a cuppa.

      • barracks9

        Congrats! I’ll email you – I’m in the Marigny now too, as of June. I love my neighborhood!

  • Ragnar Lothbrok

    We used to go to our families separately, but he has started to come with me to mine. Mostly because my family is fun and friendly and his are decent, but standoffish.

  • zhera

    I visit family on the other side of the country. They have children and proper winter weather. We eat and enjoy eachothers company for three days and then I go back home. Then I sleep for a week.

    Love it! Though I won’t be getting my traditional Christmas Eve dinner, there’s still plenty of yummy food.

  • Phil

    Now that everyone’s dead, the holidays are so much less stressful and I actually look forward to them.

    • Gustav2

      Now that both sets of our parents are dead, we don’t have to show up anywhere for Christmas. Just the two of us, like Thanksgiving was.

      • clay

        Is that a raw, plucked chicken on the left?

        • Gustav2

          Yup, and quit making fun of my traditions! ;-(

  • oikos

    Family usually means drama. We try to go somewhere for the holidays on vacation and usually pay a visit to friends while doing so.

  • camel54

    My partner’s family, who live near to us, don’t even speak to us. Mine are in the UK. We live in the middle of a wood in northern Italy. We’re vegetarian. Christmas at our house is therefore a minor event which be both enjoy enormously with a couple of friends, a tree and VEGETABLES!

    • David Walker

      We used to share Thanksgiving with vegetarian friends. Their concession to us carnivores was something called “tofurkey.” They moved and, while we miss them, I can’t say that I miss the center dish. Have a veggie merry Christmas.

      • camel54

        Tofurkey sounds revolting. Nothing like that here, just good food and friends. Have a very happy Christmas!

  • VodkaAndPolitics

    We changed up the tradition this year. For the last decade, my husband and I have travelled to visit all three of our families every christmas (Hubby’s family is divorced and remarried), it got to the point where we were spending the whole of Christmas in the car, delivering gift cards. This year, we had all the family down to Ft Lauderdale and went on a cruise together, and it will just be the Hubby and I on Christmas Day.

    • Mark McGovern

      I so like that concept!

  • Mark McGovern

    We be driving from Canada to Brewster NY Dec. 23, then on to Canadohta Lake PA for Xmas eve then to St. Pete and the fabulous Flamingo Hotel for New Years!

    May stop at State College PA on the way – anyone know anything about it?

    • Joe in PA

      I’m a relative recent addition to PA, but I drove through State College last month…the country side is beautiful. And it appears that the area is a little better ‘healed’ than other parts in that area.

    • David Walker

      I agree with Joe. It’s quite safe for central PA. It’s a college town, so the evenings may be quieter than usual. As Joe says, though, the surrounding area is beautiful…especially now when we’re almost at ideal Andrew Wyeth browns and dull greens.

  • Julian (UK)

    This year – as for the last 10 years, I’ll spend it in London with my best friend, Sian. She lives 2 streets away, and although we went to art school together in Herefordshire, we did not keep in touch – and met accidentally on the common one morning. I patted her dog – and she said “Fuck! Is that you Julian?” We’ve been very close ever since. She has no family, and I like a simple Christmas with my friend popping in and meeting at the pub and in local restaurants. I’ll buy my tree from the same familly I’ve bought one from for the past 20 years, and my Turkey from our local butcher, Doves. They’ve had a shop here since the 1880’s and their Christmas Window is a tradition. On christmas morning we’ll go to the French Pattisier and buy brioche, and then have milky coffee with it and open our stockings before going to the pub to meet all our friends, and then home to make dinner. then fade out with a Christmas Horror film or Bad Santa – another tradition. Hope you all have a great time, and someone does something about Trump!

    • Ian

      What a great story.”Happy” Christmas, as you say over there. 😉 x

    • Jean-Marc in Canada

      Sounds brilliant, have a very Happy Christmas 🙂

    • David L. Caster

      I think it is quite delightful that you two were reunited by an English Bull Terrier.

  • joeyj1220

    Since the Supreme Court decision this summer and the Facebook fallout from that with family, the hubby and I decided we were skipping family and going on a cruise instead. Doing Celebrity cruise line to the Caribbean

    • David Walker

      Bon voyage!

  • HanyBaal

    As an Ex-Mooz, Xmas wasn’t big in my family of origin, but I participated and celebrated with various friends, host family and SO’s. Now I’m sick of it. I mean, yeah, It’s a fun cultural experience with feel-good theme, but do we have to do it every EFing year? Now I dread the stress and commercialization. I tried not to participate last year, but it was impossible top avoid it socially.

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  • Bob from CT

    We’ve been together for 25 years, and the tradition is to spend Christmas Day with his large and convivial Italian American family who live near us in CT. We then pick a day between Christmas and New Year’s and drive to MA to celebrate and exchange gifts with my family. On New Year’s Eve, we get together with our oldest and dearest friends, Al and Bill. We have dinner with them and also exchange gifts.

  • Joe in PA

    Many years ago (when I was single) I made the trek home to MN for Christmas, it was always fun and something I really wanted to do. But as the years have gone on…and the family has dwindled or moved away I get to STAY HOME with hubby.

    This year, for something TOTALLY different: we are spending NYE with my husband’s former in-laws in Mississippi. How weird is THAT? He and ex-wife are pretty close to being “best friends” and her new husband is great. Even her new husband’s parents are pretty great…and they are from northern MS. We’ll spend a few days in rented cabins at a state park. SMH. 😉

    • Man, that is pretty much what smell tests were made for!!! 😉 You guys are super lucky!!

    • David Walker

      That sounds wonderful, Joe. What makes it all work, of course, is that it’s NORTHERN Mississippi. Enjoy.

      • Joe in PA

        Thank you sweetie!

        I’m guessing that was snark about NORTHERN Mississippi, but to be clear northern MS is much worse than the gulf coast. Gulf coast is still bad though. 😉

  • The Larry Mac

    This year I’m headed down to Florida to visit my parents.

    Orlando meet-up, Joe?

  • Butch

    I save the trips to Dysfunction Junction for other times of the year. MY partner and I spend it together or with a few friends.

    • David Walker

      Dysfunction Junction? Love it!!!!!!!1!!

  • gary larson

    after many years of staying with friends and visiting my family, i’m staying with family and visiting friends. have finally realized how important family is.

    • David Walker

      Good for you. Relish your realization and enjoy the holiday.

  • I prefer to spend xmas alone, I always watch my favorite movie on xmas morning, Cloud Atlas. Then presents with lots of hot spiced alcoholic beverages 😀

  • TheManicMechanic

    Hubby has to work Xmas day. I will have lunch with him there. 🙁

    • LonelyLiberal

      Will you shift the holiday to another day instead or just skip it?

      • TheManicMechanic

        We will visit his family this weekend, but it’s not really much of a celebration.

  • The tradition around our home for more than 20 years now has been the two of us with our logical family. It started with about 6 of us and has grown to a group of about 35 for a big Christmas dinner every year on Christmas Day. We have a wonderful time. We break tradition this year as since my dad passed unexpectedly and we are going to spend the day with my mother back east. One of our chosen family members is going to host the traditional celebration for us and we will return to hosting it next year.

  • Alan43

    Christmas Eve I’ll go to my dad’s church with my dad and my sister and her family, then stop at his house to open presents. I’ll see if I can talk him into putting out luminaria this year. Then on Christmas Day going to my cousin’s for dinner. Same as usual. Might go to a Christmas Day service at my church, haven’t done that before

    • David Walker

      A Christmas DAY service? Wow. I remember a minister in my home town tried to get a Christmas Day service into people’s traditions…no one ever showed up.

      When I was Unitarian, they didn’t even bother with a service if Christmas fell on a Sunday.

      • Alan43

        We’ll see how many people actually show up

  • samcollins

    Since my partner HAS to go visit his family in Mexico every year, I’ve been spending it by myself in a little cabin at the Grand Canyon. Then we celebrate at home for New Year’s Eve.

  • caphillprof

    My husband and I will be spending Christmas week in Orange County with my sister. Last year we attended morning mass at Mission San Juan Capistrano where we were checked out by a lot of single men. In the past we have spent an evening in DC checking out decorations at the gay bars. This year we checked out Freddie’s Beach Bar.

  • LonelyLiberal

    We’ll spend it with my family Christmas Eve, my mother on Christmas Day, and his will be up the day after from Maryland and stay through Monday (with my family popping in and out to visit his).

    It’s revoltingly Rockwellian.

    We did finally change Christmas dinner. Rather than Mom cooking, we just throw some sandwich fixings on the table. By then, nobody really wants to eat, and why should she have to do anything on Christmas? It turns out, we like it better overall anyway. If you’re hungry, you eat. if not, you sit and chat and don’t feel guilty.

    • stuckinthewoods

      Sounds very civilized and sane.
      o/t Is this weird weather making trees bloom there? I noticed cherries in bloom here.

      • LonelyLiberal

        I’ve seen trees sprouting leaves, but nothing blossoming just yet. Some are close, though! The lawn looks like May, parts of the garden are still up and running, and it’s 54 degrees here at 9 PM on December 17th.

        Fortunately, the weather’s tacked onto the end of fall, so the bulbs haven’t been fooled. Yet. Unfortunately, the flats I start in November and park in the garage to cold stratify are still waiting, and it’s getting too late to bother. I’ll just have to accept poor to modest sprout and seed heavily.

        Christmas Eve is supposed to be 63 and sunny, more like Memorial Day than Christmas…

  • JIM W

    I’m an Atheist, so xmas isn’t a big deal, except for the secular side of parties, gifts and the like. My hubby and I spend the season with our logical family. We decorate with poinsettias, garland and lots of glitter. No tree. No virgin and child (as if we could find one).

  • delk

    My husband and I take a road trip every year. Currently we are in the middle of our holiday trip in the Smoky Mountains. Went to Dollywood yesterday!

    Rainy day today. View from our balcony.

    • Ian

      Smokies are my favorite mountains. Just gorgeous. And Dollywood, well, when I was little in the early 90s….My parents took us to Dollywood because Dolly was my favorite singer. Needless to say, my mom was not so shocked when I came out.

      • delk

        Dollywood is over the top for the holidays. Everything is covered in lights!

    • fuzzybits

      We went to Dollywood years ago. That was after driving over 200 miles on the Blue Ridge Parkway and going to Biltmore in Ashville,NC.

  • chrisinphx

    Back to Chicago courtesy of my brother as a surprise for our Grandmother. It will be my first Christmas back home in 13 years. I’m looking forward to rummaging through Grandmas christmas ornaments to bring back home with me.

    • Anastasia Beaverhousen

      Some of my favorite ornaments are original shiny brites that were my grandmother’s. I see them and remember all she and my grandfather did to help me get where I am today. Without them I would still be sitting miserably in a small town in WV. When one of those ornaments accidentally breaks, so does my heart.

      • chrisinphx

        Grandma pretty much raised us both while our parents we’re busy partying and such. Husband got me an aluminum tree last year and grandma has a rotating stand shes passing down from the attic.

  • Raybob

    Being good Pagans, we spend Thanksgiving with his very conservative Catholic family and Christmas with my very liberal Episcopalian family. Drive down to FL and sing in my dad’s church choir midnight on Christmas Eve. We spend Solstice morning with friends at their Solstice Sunrise Bonfire, exchanging gifts. Happy Yule, y’all!

  • KCMC

    after 10 years of spending with ex’s family and next few messy lost years, it’s great to be able to be fine with solitude (and movies till eyes bleed).
    Done with odd lone uncle out with my own fundie family.
    6 years sober and grateful.

    • David Walker

      Congratulations on sober. Happy holidays to you.

  • Anastasia Beaverhousen

    When I was young we had very, very little money and a very unhappy home. Christmas was the one time of the year that was actually fun with relatives in our small home. Over the years I have distance myself from my hateful family so we are spending it with our best friends and their children as we have done for the past several years. It’s such a better choice than family. This weekend we have an Open House with about 120 coming over from our neighborhood. The it will be Christmas eve dinner at our home and Christmas morning breakfast with everyone. Then the carnage of gift opening begins. We are those gays that are probably too extravagant, but I love buying gifts for everyone and seeing them open them. Christmas day and eve hold my best memories. Oh, and our three sheepdogs will be a big part!

    • David Walker

      My first lover just went crazy with lots of presents for EVERYbody, and all of them wrapped so beautifully that you kind of wished there was a way to open them without destroying the wrap. The other thing was that he sensed what a person wanted or needed and gave accordingly. He is still missed…not just for his presents, but he was a good person and while I enjoyed his presents, I enjoyed his presence, too. Ah, well.

  • shellback

    What holiday?

    • Lars De

      Agreed, I don’t really acknowledge them. We are both atheists. I’ve never enjoyed participating in any holiday rituals, religious or secular. My husband still likes some of the traditions though. On the 24th we have a formal dinner with his mother. She loves to serve a meal (and she’s both an amazing cook and host). We wish her a Merry Christmas and she graciously does not say it back to us. On the morning of the 25th we get out of bed, brush our teeth, throw on slippers and drive to my sister’s house for pajama breakfast with her family. It’s 100% informal and we’re in and out within 2 hours max. Then it’s home for a free day of whatever we want.

    • Duh-David

      National share some cookies day.

      • Lars De

        I almost never say no to cookies!

  • MarkOH

    Christmas Eve the hubby and I will head to the east side of Cleveland to have Chinese dinner with friends. Afterwards, a 10 o’clock church service which is followed with the minister and his partner joining us in a drink at an old gay bar in town.
    Christmas morning, I will make pancakes and sausage for the husband and then travel to my Mothers for a bio family weekend.

    • David Walker

      I especially like the visiting the old gay bar with hubby, minister, and his partner. I don’t know why…it just sounds so wonderful.

      • MarkOH

        Last year, we walked in and there were only two other patrons and the VERY humpy bartender. I asked him to turn on “A Christmas Story”. He did and it was the part with Santa. I mentioned that a friend of mine played the male elf. Suddenly, one of the other guys said “I was one of the bandits at the end with an ‘X” over my eye”. Where else but a gay bar in Cleveland could you run into someone who was in a movie. We had a great time.

        • David Walker


  • Happy Dance

    I spend time with my husband’s familia because my family lives too far away, but we would all spend time together if we were closer.

  • JuanGalicia

    Usually I go meet my father´s family around the second week of December, this year it was the 12th. Mostly because they all go on vacation later on, this year was particularly exciting as the first great grandson.. or daughter will be born 😀 . Grandfather was quite excited , I also probably gained all of the weight I lost all year.

    As for my mother´s family we´ll have a gathering in December 24th , we even bring all of our pets inside so all of the nephews can play with them 😛 its chaos and my grandmother always gets drunk 😛 as she sings to old songs, and its all pretty funny 😛

  • Steverino

    Hubby and I are celebrating the holidays ALONE, just the two of us, which is wonderful! For years we were obliged to make the trek up through the Sierra through all sorts of crappy traffic and weather, just to visit my dear hubby’s sister (I shudder to call her my sister-in-law), who is a narcissistic piece of…. work. Never could be bothered to return the favor, of course. So we will be cooking our own feasts, taking drives through wine country, hanging out in our cozy cabin in the redwoods with a toasty fire in the woodstove, and otherwise simply enjoying life and retirement together. Who needs “family” drama, anyway?

    • Oh that sounds like fun!

    • Leo Tallant

      I hear it’s supposed to be cold and raining around here over that weekend. I think I would just stay in the cozy cabin…..

      (or try to spend the day in the Rainbow Cattle Co.) LOL

  • hiker_sf

    My new tradition is hoping to make it through the holidays without finding out that I’ve disappointed someone. Notice that I didn’t say ‘without disappointing someone.’

    As about half the people I know have unrealistic, sometimes ‘market-drive’ emotional expectations for the holidays, and that combined with the high from sugar binge they’ve been on since Thanksgiving turns them into fragile people I don’t know.

  • My immediate family always stayed close to home for Christmas, as my grandmother’s birthday was on Christmas Eve (and heaven help the person who gave her a gift wrapped in Christmas paper). So Christmas morning was just my parents, my brother and I, and then my grandparents would come over for Christmas dinner. After they passed away, it was just the four of us, so we started spending Christmas Eve playing cards (typical vacation thing), watching football or Christmas movies, and eating burgers for dinner (Mom was on a diet one year and it’s all she wanted).

    This year is gonna be a bit different, as we’re packing up and going to visit my brother and his fiance for Christmas, as he has to work that day (at Disney). So we’ll just move everything up a day!

    • Oh, and we save the general traveling to see the extended family for Thanksgiving. Makes Christmas soooooooooo much better.

  • Gery Weißschädel

    As an only child, and having gotten up there in years Christmas has become more of an inconvenience than anything else. My stepmother is still alive at 91 but lives a province over and travel for me has become a little problematic and moreso for her.

    However I sing with a local choir and one of my fellow tenors invited me to have dinner with her and her wife Christmas day and as she’s a good friend I gratefully accepted.

    Normally though, it’s yer basic, common household and garden variety day. I can’t quite remember the last time I sat down to the Fatted Turkey either for Christmas or Thanksgiving. 🙂

  • Gyeo

    We did Chanukah this year with my sister family. Other than that we do the usual, lots of Asian food, karaoke and dancing with extended family.

  • Roger

    Me and Hubby will spend Xmas eve, day and following weekend at my parent´s. I always like to think how my once ultra-homophobic mom came around so well that just today she called me to let us know that she´ll be doing my hubby´s favorite breakfast dish specially for him. Being very catholic, but not conservative at all, she and dad make a point of having a small prayer before the xmas dinner, I think it a bit annoying but since they can give the church the finger in favor of their gay children (there are two of us among 5 siblings) I can perfectly put up with this small nuisance. And the rest is lots of great food, booze, presents and long afternoons by the pool (its hot like hell down here). This is the one time of the year when I can tell our young gaylings: Have hope kiddos, it really gets better.

  • Iain Gardener

    All my family is gone so I spend the holiday period on my own. I start the morning with coffee, champagne and pastries, open my presents at lunch then have roast beef, yorkshires and roast potatoes whilst watching Dr Who

    • Merry Christmas to you!

      • Iain Gardener

        Thank you very much, and the same to you

    • Octavio

      Actually, that all sounds pretty good. Happy holidays. I hope you bought yourself what you wanted. 🙂

      • Iain Gardener

        Well thank you and happy holidays to you, yes I have a good book and a bottle of 21 year old scotch under the tree

        • JCF

          21 year old???? Ermagerd, you have a Scotch that’s legally able to drink itself! [Seriously jealous. Don’t think I’ve ever even SEEN anything older than 18, much less drunk it…]

          • Iain Gardener

            Ah well I live in the UK so we tend to take our scotch seriously lol. Aged single malts are one of the creators greatest gifts to mankind and if you can I would highly recommend trying one, oh and there’s a specialist whisky shop on Old Compton Street in Soho that has whiskers that are over 100 years old!

  • Ted

    I’ll be with biological family; I don’t actually have logical family nearby. My mom is 96, so this could be her last Christmas. (Which is what we thought last year.) She loves the chaos and noise and all the people.

    Anyway, Sunday is a gathering with my local brother, his wife, and the grown children and their kids. It was the only day that seemed workable given work schedules. Mom will love it, as she’ll get to see the grandkids and great-grandkids. (Turkey with all the usual stuff.)

    Christmas Day will be a small thing at the local brother’s place, so just him, his wife, Mom and Me. (Please god, not turkey.)

    Then on the 29th, the out-of-town family arrive, so it will be total chaos and noise and people, people, more people. Mom will love it. (It’s potluck: 2 of my sister’ kids are vegan, and 2 of my out-of-town brother’s kids are off gluten and dairy, so the food offerings should be interesting.)

    My local brother and I both figure that when Mom dies, the out-of-town family will never come visit, so it will be interesting to see how things fall out.

    • JCF

      I’m conscious of time passing w/ my dad. He’s 95…but (thankfully) is chugging along…

  • This will be the first year Mike and I will be away for Christmas. On my side I have 5 brothers, 4 married, a married sister, and my Dad while Mike has his parents, sister, nephew and niece and for them Christmas dinner will be held at my Dad’s house a few blocks away. Mike and I will be in France, at my single brother’s, where he runs a vineyard for wine/champagne and cold pressed grape seed oil. This brother is Mike’s oldest friend and always busy at the holidays. We want to join in on the fun and make sure he is not alone. We’ll FaceTime with family. Our best friends Parker and Lee will house sit to take care of Skipper (dog) and “the girls” (our four sister cats). We’ll be home a few days before New Years to host an end-of-year party for family/friends. Traditionally Mike and I have always hosted Christmas breakfast at our home while Christmas with family presents takes place at my Dad’s. It will be a little different this year. My brother Perry has cows, pigs, chickens, goats, three dogs, and a stray cat or two so there’s lots to do. What I look forward to most is just spending a romantic Christmas in a big comfy bed with my husband.

    • TuuxKabin

      el husbian’s and my plans exactly. Hope you both have a great holiday.

    • David Walker

      Wishing you and Mike the best…and a smooth trip to and from France.

  • Steve Teeter

    We’re in NOLA and the families are scattered throughout California, from Pasadena to Sacramento. But the hubby is too ill to travel, so we won’t be meeting up with anybody. It’ll just be the two of us here. However, there will be a lot of phone calls going back and forth. That’s the way it’s been for some years now.

    • Octavio

      Sorry to hear about your husband. Hope he’s able to improve and enjoy life.

      • Steve Teeter

        Hope so too, but it will be a long haul. On top of everything else, he’s developed Shingles on his face, on the left side affecting his eye. His one good eye. This renders him functionally blind, able only to perceive vague shapes, and unable to read. For a retired university professor, being unable to read is a heavy blow. We’re hoping his sight will return as the Shingles heals, but it’s going to be a while before we know that.

        Sorry to be such a downer on what should be an upbeat thread. But it’s comforting to be able to share these things with your friends. Merry Christmas.

        • stuckinthewoods

          My late partner had shingles at the eye. His sight did return.

          • Steve Teeter

            Well that’s encouraging. Thanks.

  • Hue-Man

    I’ll be celebrating Justin Trudeau’s 44th birthday (and his brother, Sacha’s, 42nd).

    And in case you missed this story from Tuesday:

    “Prime Minister Justin Trudeau invited 20 patients from the Children’s
    Hospital of Eastern Ontario to join him for a private advance screening
    of Star Wars: The Force Awakens last night.”

    • douglas

      Yi just posted that story yesterday on facebook and a lesbian friend said that she thought he was a lousy PM because he has “done nothing for toronto and it’s a mess”. Not sure what she expects after barely 6 weeks in office. I pointed out that her quarrel should be with the Mayor and city council. I also said that each level if government was trying to right the wrongs of Harper, Ford and even Mike Harris. But then she voted for Doug Ford so should I be surprised?

      • Hue-Man

        Did she explain how Toronto became a “mess”? Was it Shangri-la until election day then mysteriously transformed itself? Could it have had anything to do with the Fords’ mismanagement plus Harper’s unwillingness to spend on infrastructure?

        I’ve been around long enough to know that we will have lots of opportunities to be critical of Trudeau and the Liberals. In the meantime, I’ll celebrate “sunny days” after nearly a decade of gloom.

  • Duh-David

    Let’s check-in with Batman once again:

  • JoyZeeBoy

    Every Christmas from 1979 until 1994 I spent on the UES with my hateful ex and his ex. (don’t ask… it was weird from the outset). Then I went through an extended bout of family Christmases. That lasted 18 years. I met my husband in 2012. Since then, it’s Christmas Eve with the Slovak in-laws at our home and Christmas Day with my family in Delaware. I should own the NJ Turnpike by now.

  • Octavio

    Since hooking up with an Argentine and having spent most Decembers/Januarys in the southern hemisphere (sadly, not this year) I’ve been relieved to understand that la navidad is not that big of a deal. To an Argentine it means getting out of town ASAP to begin the annual 30-day vacation. I’m thrilled to be old enough that I no longer have living parents who expect me to show up just to be near them on December 25. And now I have no living relatives except some nieces and nephews I have no interest in ever knowing about, life is good.

    But El Squeeze is feeling a bit down in the dumps. He can’t stand the Yankee culture (Argentines consider ALL ‘Merikuhns are Yankees) and the poor kid does miss his mother. So, I’m taking him skiing for three days in Jackson, WY where will meet up with friends and won’t be over abused by the need to even say “Happy Holidays.”

    By the way, anyone else hear about the bill being pushed through the House to make “Merry Christmas” an official, government mandated way to advertise and greet one another? It’s true. Happening right now. Check out the House bill put forth by Rep. Lamborn from Colorado at:

    There’s more at:

  • madknits

    My family had many traditions, none of which I’ve been able to maintain since my mother died. My brother and I are estranged, so I will join a couple of very close friends. We’ll go out for Chinese food in Boston’s Chinatown, and then either go to a movie or return to their house, snuggle the dogs and watch the Die Hard series, in memory of a friend of ours who loved those flicks.
    At the end of this month I’m moving to New Orleans to be with the boyfriend. I’ll work on blending his traditions with mine.

  • TuuxKabin

    I can remember the last Christmas I spent with my bio family in S.F., but I can’t remember when it was . . . late 70’s I think. I just remember it poured. El husbian and I’ve been together 35 years next month. Domestic Partners for the last 14, married the last five or six. We’ll probably do the usual late afternoon meal in the neighborhood, Indian, Malaysian, Mexican, Chinese, Italian, Bistro . . . our choice. We don’t exchange gifts or deck the halls. We’ve pretty much grown accustom to it just being the two of us with a few friends before or after the holidays. We hope you all have a wonderful time, on your own, with either family or sharing it with others. Take care.

    • OMG! To be together 35 years! What a wonderful life!

      • TuuxKabin

        yeah, blows me away. All good things, he is. How long you been together?

  • Lakeview Bob

    I moved from Chicago to Palm Springs a few weeks ago. Been spending money like I was rich (and I am not!) trying to get settled and buying a new car. So I decided not to go back to the D.C.- Maryland area this year to see family in the interest of economy. I’ll be lonely no doubt! SNIFF

    • Ahhh… Merry Christmas!

    • Joe in PA

      Pardon me for NOT sharing your sorrow…YOU ARE IN PALM SPRINGS buster! Get over it!! LOL

      (teasing Bob, it isn’t so great traveling at Christmas time anyway)

  • Nic Peterson

    My sister and her family are coming to visit us in Hawaii. Christmas morning surf session down in Waikiki is a long standing tradition. My nephews will surf their first waves in the Pacific. (Pray for small surf)

    We decorated one of the indoor palm trees for a festive mood. The champagne starts at noon, dinner at 1 and we keep going until the wee hours.

    • TuuxKabin


      • Nic Peterson

        Mele Kalikimaka!

    • My grandparents live on the Big Island in a little town called Volcano. To have them at our wedding we re-married in 2008 on Black Sand Beach. I used to spend every Summer on the Big Island as a child/teen. I miss it! 🙂 Joy to you!

      • Nic Peterson

        Aloha Gary, did you renew your vows on Kahena beach? One of my favorite places on the planet…

        Your grandparents must be rather progressive, Volcano attracts the free spirits. I was just there a few weeks ago, never get tired of that area. The air smells better in the rain forest.

        • stuckinthewoods

          Interesting to read. My parents left me land in Hawaiian Acres and I was surprised to read Puna described in the NYTimes as a “gay mecca”.

          • Nic Peterson

            No gym, no coffee shops, no gay bars. Not exactly a Gay Mecca, but a great place to go if you want to escape Gay Mecca.

  • Jean-Marc in Canada

    Time with Bio Fam and Logic Fam, we’re blended that way. 🙂 Fairly traditional French Canadian Christmas:

    I’ve already started cooking this week (have over 30 people coming to the house this year). Shortbread cookies, Belgian truffles (yeah, I make them by hand bitches LOL). Husbotter is getting Moose & Pork for the Tortierres (French Canadian Meat Pies….yummmm) and, of course, the preparation of the Moose Milk (not what you think, it’s a homemade cream liqueur made with 160 proof rum…..again, yum). Then it’s quiet time until the family & friends arrives on Christmas Eve. Then it’s Réveillon de Noël after Midnight Mass (we stay home as we’re both atheists). While the Family is out at Church, the husbotter and I warm up the pies, get the ham, the cakes and Maple Sugar ready and then……CHRISTMAS!!!!!! One present, per tradition, is opened before bed (usually 4AM) and then the next day, we do it all over……only more food (Turkeys, natch), drinks and lots of prezzies for everyone.

    Good Times.

  • David Walker

    We tend not to do anything special. When I was in broadcasting, if a holiday fell during the week, you worked your shift, so we got used to spending it together more in the evening than through the day. We’re both just as happy to have nothing to do with it. My sister and I will exchange cards; otherwise, her family will have nothing to do with me, which is fine by me, except that my sister does great PA Dutch cooking. Hubs’ immediate family no longer exists. As a choral director, I had to spend pretty much all year involved with holiday music, starting with a review of the concerts/services and then listening to/reading publishers’ new crops of holiday music. Everything had to be locked in by the end of August. 25 years of rehearsing pretty much the same music in new arrangements for a holiday I didn’t care much for really got to me. I loved directing, but it’s nice not to have to spend so much of the year focused on xmas. I’ve mastered the art of cooking the turkey in the microwave, so that’ll happen…although we’ve been known to do Chinese for the occasion. Otherwise, it’s Hubs, our four-legged daughter Patches, and me.

  • Reality Check

    My husband-to-be and I will be in Puerto Vallarta. We have made it a point to travel during this time of the year. We prefer to see the family during a non-holiday time. We will meet the folks in Louisiana together for the first time in March – a big trip. In prior years, we have been to Cancun/Tulum, Maui(!!!), Costa Rica but last year, we went to Vietnam so that he could return home since he has not been back since after the Vietnam War and the vengeful behavior of remnants of the Viet Cong. He was one of the boat people fleeing and risking his life. This was one of the best trips of my life and he could see that alot has changed since the early 80’s…

    • David Walker

      Will you be needing a chaperon?

      • Reality Check

        No cock blocking, please. Love you, David 🙂

        • David Walker

          Grand auntie just trying to be of service.

  • Nychta

    Gathering ’round the piano with friends on Christmas Eve. Everyone’s bringing a dish, and we’ll sip wine and enjoy music. The friend who’s hosting is taking time out from holiday quilting (right now his sewing room is like Santa’s Workshop) to collect songs we can sing tonether.

    Christmas Day I’ll be at home, curled up with a pot of tea, a Phryne Fisher mystery, and my cat friend.

    I hope everyone has a splendid holiday.

  • Last year Hubby and I were alone for the first time in 36 years. Without our kids and their families and his family. So, we decided to skirt the entire holiday by creating a new one. Rose Colored Opposite Day. This entails eating no holiday foods, we had burgers and chips and baked beans, with ice cream sundaes. We watched movies we had rented all day, so the tv wasn’t ever tuned to cable so there wasn’t a single whiff of xmas anywhere in the house. The kids did call, but we manned thru not being able to be with them. All in all, it wasn’t a bad day.

    • barrixines

      Biki I do not know how you can be alone for the first time in 36 years when I have you down in my head as a young chap in his early twenties. Now just go back and write your “What I did in my holidays” essay properly.

      • Thank ye kindly! This year I celebrated my 56th b’day.

        • barrixines

          Impossible – I was fifty last week and I am twice your age. (Amazing isn’t it that you have these ideas in your head that are absolutely fixed but seem to have been dragged out of thin air.)

          • LoL! Yep, I’ve found myself doing that and am always surprised when my rock solid ideas turn out to be nothing more than glimmer dust.

        • David Walker

          God. You young ‘uns. Get off my porch! You’ll damage the ornaments!

          • Oh! Do I have to? How about if I promise to sit right quiet on the top step? I promise that I wont interrupt when the adults are talking. And I wont touch ANYTHING!

          • David Walker

            grumble grumble grumble

          • sigh, kicking at the ground with the toe of my sneakers.

  • BlueberriesForMe

    1. Yay! to Open Thread Thursday. I thought you had gone forever.

    2. I host the 12/25 Saturnalia/Winter Solstice/Decorated ManMade Tree day for
    my BioFam. I’ve been doing it now for a number of years so I pretty
    much know what I need to prepare ahead of time. Everyone in the
    Fam. brings part of the dinner or helps out in the kitchen which is
    really nice. One afternoon/early evening per year – and then it’s all
    over until next December..

    • JCF

      “Yay! to Open Thread Thursday. I thought you had gone forever.”

      A bunch of times recently I’ve had Deep Thoughts, wishing I had an Open Thread here w/ which to inflict share them w/ y’all. Now that we have such a thread, my mind is almost completely empty (Lucky You!).

  • David Milley

    Most years, Warren and I just tuck in at home, glad for each others’ company. Come to think of it, that’s how we spend most of our days, now that I’ve retired. Enjoying having the time to spend how we like.

  • barrixines

    Christmas will be ten days in the the South of France with the Vicomte staying with my father in law in his lovely beach front house not that far from St Tropez. My wonderful mother in-law died from cancer over Christmas a few years ago and since then it’s just been us boys. The first year after her death we stood out in the cold and had a barbecue just not to have to do anything that reminded us of anything that came before. Our ambitions haven’t moved up much since then to be honest. None of us particularly care about Christma – we do however like to eat well and get absolutely pissed as often as possible. Various friends will be joining from France and Switzerland over the week, hopefully including some of the father in law’s Harley chapter. It’s slightly disorienting hitching a ride on a bike with a dude in leather and handlebar moustache when it’s your bf’s very straight father but the Provençal countryside is lovely at all times of the year.

    • Octavio

      Bones festes!

      • barrixines

        I tu també, guapo

        • Octavio


    • David Walker

      If it’s any consolation, Reese’s came up with a “Christmas tree” shape this year. It looks nothing like a tree, but it does resemble a bit of triangular poo. They aren’t selling well.

      • barrixines

        Wonderful they will probably end up in a Chinese bargain shop here in BCN sometime in August. I did get some Reeses for my birthday – along with some English bacon and crumpets. It was an absolute feast.

  • Ginger Snap

    I’ll be doing my usual just another day off chores.

    • TuuxKabin

      Hope you got over your strep throat. Wishing you Happy Holidays.

      • Ginger Snap

        I’m at work now spreading the strep cheer to everyone cuz my boss is a dick and wouldn’t let me take a few extra days off.

        • TuuxKabin


      • Ginger Snap

        Thank you darling.

  • Gene

    milk carton baskets….such happy memories! I remember being 5, and my dad (he died when I was 7) taking me each day after school to the church to make milk carton baskets. the chruch owed about 300 of those old square plastc boxes (dorm furniture memories anyone?) and we would fill each one with canned goods, sweets, dried meat (hunters aplenty in appalachia, and a good % of any take would be dried, cured or frozen, and donated….I knew people whose homes did nto have indore plumbing who always donated to others, so generously, at Christmas….that actually makes sense now…the poor are always the most generous, but, I digress) and we would work from the list the church had of those who always needed help…+ shut ins, the newly laid off…elderly, the sick…and deliver them each day, from the first Sunday of Advent till the 23rd of December, After the deliveries, often into cold snowy hollers, and the coffee or hot chocolate, always offeres, the kids would take ornaments and put them on the old folks trees…and, if no tree, a litle 3 footer would arrive a week later, with 10 or 15 of us kids, to decorate, and then sing the carrols. it was fun…it was community…it was…exhausting, but, we got treats (5 year olds can carry cans…put a can of chili in all 30 baskets, and do it quick and get a candy cane!…5 year olds also need bribes 🙂
    Mom and the ladies of the church, while also working on the baskets and deliveries, would make really cutsy marthy stewartey like fruit baskets and take them to the people in the nursing home. everyone got one, but, especially nice ones for those with no family(or whose families were known not to visit much.
    After this, we would go back to the church, and there would be, each night of advant, carroling, cake and sweets, and a candle hymn closing. This was when we would darken the church, and sing a carol..usually we would closewith Silent night, no accompaning music, and, one by one stop singing, and blow out our candle, and quietly leave, leaving only the pastor with one candle, which he would then blow out…and, I should mention, we sang it in rounds (three groups, same song, different starting points)…then, and some will find this morbid, on the last say before Christmas eve, we went to the graveyards….long burning candels, white, parafin, in glass containers, would be set on each stone of a loved one….when there was snow, the effect…and the silence, were….amazing….then home, always to a wonderful meal (still not sure when, in this month of endless work and constant worship services and snow rides and decorating so many Christmas trees she found TIME, but, it was always wonderful….
    ….I live away from my little home town in Appalachia now..but, I go back in for at least one weekend each advent, and, its still the same….to my shock, its, still the same…even the live nativity (the most exotic animal ever it it being a llama..yes…lots of llamas in Appalachia now…just like in ancient palestine, but, why quibble?)…I miss it.
    My man is sick guys. he just drank the barium for contrast, and at 1:50 Eastern will have a Cat scan…if you pray, pray for him, for me…if not, I value the good will and friendship of this lot of people….I am, afraid. now showing him, but, terrified…..forgive me if sometimes I did not. do not, understand a lot of you….perhaps, examples like the one I just gave of my christmas traditions, and those around me explain why I dont have y’alls understandable (very much so) antipaty to the church and faith. I hope. Had I lived the experiences so many of you describe, I would probably feel exactly as you do…. in any case, I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas and new year, or whatever holiday you celebrate at this time of year. Happy holidays to all!

    • Gene

      PS…writing, bit of a nervous wrech, in the hospital waiting area for the CT scan….not really focusing on spelling or punctuation right now…mea culpa. but, it really was/ is like that…very normal rockwell…if his paintings has a lot of coal trucks and lumberjacks and coal miners in them. 🙂

      • David Walker

        I’m sure the coal trucks and miners and lumberjacks can be Photoshopped in.

        I wasn’t raised in Appalachia, but the wilds of eastern Lancaster County, PA sound somewhat similar. Church was central to the lives of many of us. I have a good idea what you mean in your reminiscence. Thank you for sharing it. One of my few traditions is reading Truman Capote’s “A Christmas Memory.” There’s very little that’s similar to my childhood, but it helps me remember, and that’s a good thing.

        It’s 5 minutes before your man gets his CT scan. If I prayed, I would…and actually I sneaked one for both of you. I feel a little like Weezer in “Steel Magnolias.” But know that I hope that things go well for both you and him. I know you a little better from what you wrote today, and I know the two of you love each other very much. You have every right to be a wreck, and it’s OK for him to know that. Be strong as he needs you to be. This “in sickness and in health” always turns out meaning more than we thought, but it keeps us together. Much love, Gene. And again, thank you for sharing your Appalachian Christmas. So beautiful.

        • Gene

          most welcome David, and thank you for what you wrote.I am, so tired,but,I feel blessd. he did.ok…now, we wait for the results. The doctor is now a client ofmine..should get results quick.
          I grew up quite comfotably but seeing poverty all aroud me….want…kindergarten classates with rickets…yes, rickets. I am 46. I should not know what that is. I do. I will mention this now…the most personal thing I ever have written here. instead of the12 to 15% per anum we gave to charity,plus the frequent gifts to family and neighbors when illess hit, or the mines shut down. my little man woke from his coma..was, later decanulated, and, releaning to talk, informed me we were going to give more. he (with my approval and blesig) has given away about 65% of our net worth. A nissan sits where the 525i used to be. He, like the coal miners I grew up with and loved, tells me to work like hell, and make money “make money boy, and use it to help..people need help.”
          and,I have, butmy husband,makes me a better man. he, and my childhood, are my compass..he is asleep now..fentinel and other drugs. He is the generous one…the economic realist who says “if you dont have it, you cannot give to those in need”…then hands me the checkbook, and says “write, then plan tomorow at the office”……that is the man I am fighting for….I am, scared to death…..and, your words were just what I needed right now…thank much

          • David Walker

            You’re most welcome. Please let me know how things go.

          • Steve Teeter

            I wrote below about my own man’s trials and health problems but your and your man’s tribulations humble me. Especially his generosity at such a time.

            Oh, Gene, I feel for you. I’ve been scared to death too, when my husband had a stroke and I saw him unconscious and intubated on a hospital bed. I did everything I could there, gave the hospital staff all the information about his health history that I had, then went home and cried my eyes out.

            He did come home, but he can’t walk. His mind, though, is still pretty sharp, for which I’m grateful. I hope that your family’s outcome will be the best it can be.

          • Gene

            hi steve, david, barrixines…he is home. lot of pain…still no answer. I am still terrified, dealing with it with humor….and work.
            thank you all, so much, for your kind words…and Steve, I will keep your man in my prayers (I pray) and I hope he improves. I am soo sooo glad he is still himself (his mind). its hard to take care of someone who cannot walk…in time, I hope he regains the ability, or, like family of mind who cannot, adjusts to it and still has, with you, a full and wonderful life.

    • barrixines

      All the best to you and your man and wishing you both the strength and serenity to meet whatever comes next together.

  • Hryflex

    Husbear and I will be only be celebrating 2 years and 7 months on Christmas Day, so we are still establishing traditions. Since we met in church — I’m the Choirmaster and he’s on the Vestry — that will be a big part of it. It’s only recently that I get Christmas off at my 9-5 job, and my nearest family is 200 miles south, so I’ve rarely gotten a chance to go there. He, on the other hand, has a large and complicated family locally and they have welcomed me into their traditions (mostly involving food and Christmas crackers). I’ve dragged him into my tradition of “Christmas projects”: this year it’s 31 bottles of home-made merlot and 20 jars of apple butter.

  • As has happened for years, my logical family will join us at our home for the yearly roast beast.

    • TuuxKabin

      yum, nothing like a roast beast. hope it’s a happy yearly.

  • Joe

    It will be our first Christmas here at our new home in Tampa. We mix up the holidays by going and visiting relatives, (brother and sister…. or a niece in the case of the hubby)

    Now, they are coming to visit us, because of the fantastic 84 degree temps. Who can blame them?

  • jawnbc

    After a lifetime of northern hemisphere (Canada and US) Christmases, this will be our fourth in NZ. My sister-in-law and family (husband and 2 teenagers) will come to ours around noon, and we’ll have a barbecue lunch on the deck by the pool. For St Stephen’s/Boxing Day it’ll be the gays’ turn by the pool. I miss a lot of the winter wonderland type stuff, but also love how we do it down here.

  • Paul

    I’m pulling a “Skipping Christmas” this year. I’ll be in Indianapolis for Christmas weekend. I’ll be celebrating a “Jewish Christmas” on Christmas Day by going to a Chinese buffet and then by going to see The Force Awakens. I can’t WAIT for it!

    • Gustav2

      May the Roast Duck be with you!

      • Paul

        Seriously, I’ve already warned my friends, if they DARE spoil this movie for me…I’ll vote for Mike Pence out of spite.

        • Gustav2

          That is going to the Dark Side.

          • Paul

            Exactly. Which is why they AREN’T going to be spoiling it for me. 😉

  • bdsmjack

    We ignore the relatives, stay home, cook and drink a lot! I usually make Tom & Jerrys, a Midwest sort of eggnog concoction. The menu varies, but I always make chicken liver pate on Christmas Eve, which sounds gross, but is my favorite. There always has to be gingerbread in some form. Sometimes we invite a few friends over, but not always. No snow, this year, but the tree is pretty.

    • Joe in PA

      Wow Tom and Jerrys…I’d completely forgotten about that drink! (If I recall, you are from MPLS area?) Me too. Very cool.

      One of our weird traditions was pickled herring. Gross. 🙂

      • bdsmjack

        Hahaha! I’ll take herring over lütefisk, any day!

    • Anastasia Beaverhousen

      Thanks honey for bringing up, Tom and Jerrys. I have the serving bowl and cups and always forget to bring it out for our party. We had these as kids growing up. One of the few times we had a little alcohol as kids. I think it was to knock us out so Santa could come early.

      • bdsmjack

        That’s hilarious! We were allowed to taste only the batter with some hot water. If we asked to try alcohol, my father would say, “No, that’s Daddy Pop!” (‘Pop’ is Midwest for ‘soda’). I still call it that to this day, as in “Dear, would you swing by the liquor store after work for some Daddy Pop?

  • Bj Lincoln

    This Sunday, my wife, father-in-law and several friends will enjoy a big ham dinner with all the trimmings. We will exchange gifts and play games with our friends. When they have gone, I will light a candle in each room and sage the house to banish all the negative energy. I will ask for a blessing and be grateful the sun will grow strong and the days will be longer. Then….The wife and I will smoke a little something and play with her new video games!
    On Christmas we go to my step-daughters house and exchange gifts with them and all the grand-kids. They put out a big spread of food all made from scratch by her Italian husband. Yummy!

  • canoebum

    Aside from cooking for friends, which I enjoy greatly, and a good excuse to buy some Cognac and Drambuie, I could do without the whole thing. I’m not a Christian, and most of the rest is commercialized hype.

  • Todd Allis

    My son and daughter in law and I were going to drive from California to Colorado, but their plans changed because of a new job. So I’ll fly to Colorado where my oldest sister lives, and where Mom moved a few years ago. Another sister will be joining us, and probably some other relatives too. I am expecting snow. 🙂

    Son and daughter in law and I will celebrate this Sunday, and Monday we’re seeing The Force Awakens at an IMAX theater.

    I will try to make time to do a synchronized viewing of “Tokyo Godfathers” with my friend in Idaho. She watches it every year on Christmas, and it’s a great anime movie about three homeless people who find a baby on Christmas Eve in the garbage and try to find the parents. We will probably take in the Doctor Who Christmas Special too.

  • Lindoro Almaviva

    My husband and i will meet at my Father and (step) Mother in law for a small celebration on Christmas eve followed by Midnight mass with my sister and brother in law. After 12 years together, we were married the day the courts allowed it in IN (exactly a year and a day before the national decision, who’d ever thought).

    Now this might not seem significant given how the past 12 Christmases were celebrated the same way, but this year, our wedding announcement (the picture of our first kiss as husbands) is part of the permanent family photo display on the walls, in its own frame. That is HUGE for a conservative Republican. (Though my StepMother in law is a Democrat who openly says she votes democrat to cancel his vote out.

  • Paul Forsyth

    Went to Handel’s Messiah at Toronto Symphoney with friends. I know, but I love the choir. It was awesome! Merry Christmas!

  • stuckinthewoods

    B is going to Lancaster, PA as this will certainly be his father’s last Christmas. I’ll stay here at Ca’Bondo by myself and that’s fine.

  • anne marie in philly

    spouse and I go out for asian food (chinese or indian), then we go to the movies (if there is something we wanna see). otherwise, it’s a quiet day spent with the cats.

  • Blobby

    My father’s b-day, when he was alive, was Dec 23. My mother’s is Dec 24. My brother in law’s is Dec 24th. His daughter’s is Dec 21. We all get together on the 24th. It’s not xmas, exactly, as we are Jewish, but…….it makes for a nice get together.

    My husband has been attending the last 30 of these get togethers. I believe they all like him better than myself. And I can live with that.

  • We intermingle. We spent Thanksgiving in Palm Springs with our logical family, and we’ll spend Christmas at our house with my husband’s parents, two of his siblings, and those siblings’ families. His parents, who are 91 and 79 and sing in their Presbyterian church choir, have never been anything but loving to me and supportive of our relationship. My parents are gone and two of my three siblings have shunned me, but I frequently spend holidays with my other sibling. She’s just too far away to join us this year.

  • JCF

    Please join us in Carmichael (Sacramento area) CA!

    This Sunday at 5PM, the St Michael’s Choir (I’m a tenor) will be presenting Lessons & Carols: Advent/Christmas readings from everyone here’s favorite book, the “buybull” ;-p, along w/ both congregational singing and anthems by the choir. Y’all don your gay apparel and come!

    Beyond that, I’m not sure yet: I’m sure meals & “potent potables” will be consumed w family&friends. When my Jewish brother arrives at New Year’s, weather cooperating, there will be a ski trip to the Sierra Nevada. Happy Holidays everybody!

    -> What JCF is hoping for under the tree:

    • JCF

      Re the skiing: just up the hill (up I-80) from us, one of my favorite sights in all the world: Castle Peak, snow-covered.

      • William

        I’ll stay inside, drinking hot cocoa.

        • JCF

          A legitimate life-style choice (I’ll take mine w/ Kahlua, please! 😉 )

  • NancyP

    I will spend it with my brother.

  • lala

    With the BFs family.

  • Spend it with family making a big ass dinner. I’m doing a low-country boil, red beans and rice, fried chicken, and macaroni casserole. Dad’s making some smoked barbecue ribs and a tater salad with pumpkin and cherry pies. Not sure what else we will make. I love cooking rare, expensive dishes my parents never buy for themselves because they don’t like to indulge like that. Idiots.

  • EqualityForAll

    Spouse and I will be spending Christmas together again this year. The born-again Christian daughter-in-law stopped inviting us since we got married two years ago, so we haven’t seen the grand-kiddies since then. Isn’t that Christmas-like of her?
    Just the same, he and I have a great time. We make Christmas Eve and day dinners enough to feed an army – and we love spending the time together.

  • debra

    The wife,kid,and I are going away from the dark rainy Seattle for 2 weeks in Key West and Fort Meyers. We may overdose on Vitamin D.

  • The Other Half and I lived in Las Vegas–2000 miles away from family–for 20 years. This year, we moved back. We used to have our own little private Christmas, a few parties around town, and handled the family via phone and THIS year we moved back, and we’re juggling multiple gatherings. It’s been one big, diet wrecking event after another from Thanksgiving forward, and won’t stop until New Year’s. But everything slotted in amazingly well, with no part of the family’s toes stepped on. I wonder what the chances are that’ll happen every year?